one lonely guy
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Thank you for all the kind and understanding thoughts Naleena.
A friend who did the same last fall had different circumstances. All available help, support and resources were provided, but she succumbed to severely distorted irrational thinking. It's good to believe support, understanding and reasoning always work, but when severe mental health problems get in the way, it's not always the case.
I'm a survivor (like my mom was) and it would be a discredit to her to ever pull the plug.
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That's somewhat the way it was for my brother, though he put himself in a position where help couldn't be provided. Loooong story (not fit to recount here).Naleena said:I cared a lot about someone who commited suicide and for the longest time I kept thinking that if I had done this or that, maybe he would still be here. Maybe I could have helped him in some way. The fact that we weren't talking at the time didn't help things. He was a good man who gave up to soon. People who commit suicide are so overwhelmed with pain that they can't see thier way out of it. They lack the support they need to get through the crisis.
A friend who did the same last fall had different circumstances. All available help, support and resources were provided, but she succumbed to severely distorted irrational thinking. It's good to believe support, understanding and reasoning always work, but when severe mental health problems get in the way, it's not always the case.
My late mother had very similar experiences wrt to my father who passed away earlier, but claimed to her dying day they weren't dreams. I'm not sure - I guess I'm too rational to judge.I have also dreamed of him. I dreamed I was lying in bed and there were angels around me...
The disconnects were permanent. Friends-wise I now know almost nobody I knew prior to the family deaths. What little family I have semi-locally has completely isolated from me. Though I've finally given it up after years of trying to reconnects, it's bitterly disappointing. Letting go is extremely difficult, esp. when one had good times with them in the past.You mentioned that your family and friends disconnected from you when your mother passed away. It is not uncommon for this to happen when someone dies or when someone becomes sick with a terminal or serious illness. People don't know what to say or what to do and so they stay away.
While the question is rhetorical, an "I'm sorry" and a hug has always worked. Vanishing, esp. by 'friends' is a slap in the face. I have never done that to a friend, nor ever would. I just wasn't worth the inconvenience. [/bitterness]What do you tell someone who has lost three people in thier lives?
They lost parents too, and I was there for them.I doubt they knew what it was you needed at that time.
Ok-ish at best (on good days).I am glad to hear that you are doing ok considering all that you have gone through.
I'm a survivor (like my mom was) and it would be a discredit to her to ever pull the plug.
Thanks Naleena. Hope springs eternal.I hope one day that you find someone to care for you and who will be there for you. I will keep you in my thoughts.
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