Omnisiac
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I have been on and off this site for years. I am again in a situation where my life is lonely. As I sat in my living room with all my gadgets and gizmos off, I didn't want to do anything. All the internet, video games, and hobbies in the world was no-longer keeping the feeling at bay. I've decided I want to volunteer.
All I kept thinking about was why didn't people want to talk with me, have a conversation, be my friend. Everywhere I looked on a nice spring day groups and couples everywhere. But really groups of people generally don't invite the lone individual in. Your alone, I guess there is something wrong with you. What do people think when I sit alone at a resturaunt eating my bbq pulledpork sandwich? Ya know, I thought, what can I really expect? Us singletons are invisible, groups carry their own little worlds with them. As lonly people do we really sit around waiting for people to take an interest in us? Do we sit in the coffee shop hoping that the comment we make might inspire someone to learn more about us. When did I become so absorbed in and concerned about myself that I think that I can just put myself out there and be recognized? I think I need to give. People notice the singleton that helps, assists, or does something for charity. People want to be associated with people that do good things...Except for the volunteers that ask for money. Noone really likes them.
I just thought that maybe the reason I was lonely is because I was expecting other people to do the work for me. I was waiting for someone to come find me in my hole and pull me out, dust me off and say "Well yer not so bad". Who does that? Looking back at all the bouts of loneliness I see a pattern. I would become lonely, withdraw and then I began to feel that people didn't like me or thought I was strange (which is really what people think of sad-looking withdrawn people). I didn't realize that if I had only smiled and sought more opportunities to be kind to others I might have ended my loneliness sooner. I'm still lonely now, but maybe when I get involved in the community more I will make friends. Maybe if I ask people about themselves they will like me more (people like to talk about themselves). People like to be around people that make them feel good. In the process maybe I can find some interesting people too.
I would really be interested in your thoughts on these thoughts. Thanks for reading
All I kept thinking about was why didn't people want to talk with me, have a conversation, be my friend. Everywhere I looked on a nice spring day groups and couples everywhere. But really groups of people generally don't invite the lone individual in. Your alone, I guess there is something wrong with you. What do people think when I sit alone at a resturaunt eating my bbq pulledpork sandwich? Ya know, I thought, what can I really expect? Us singletons are invisible, groups carry their own little worlds with them. As lonly people do we really sit around waiting for people to take an interest in us? Do we sit in the coffee shop hoping that the comment we make might inspire someone to learn more about us. When did I become so absorbed in and concerned about myself that I think that I can just put myself out there and be recognized? I think I need to give. People notice the singleton that helps, assists, or does something for charity. People want to be associated with people that do good things...Except for the volunteers that ask for money. Noone really likes them.
I just thought that maybe the reason I was lonely is because I was expecting other people to do the work for me. I was waiting for someone to come find me in my hole and pull me out, dust me off and say "Well yer not so bad". Who does that? Looking back at all the bouts of loneliness I see a pattern. I would become lonely, withdraw and then I began to feel that people didn't like me or thought I was strange (which is really what people think of sad-looking withdrawn people). I didn't realize that if I had only smiled and sought more opportunities to be kind to others I might have ended my loneliness sooner. I'm still lonely now, but maybe when I get involved in the community more I will make friends. Maybe if I ask people about themselves they will like me more (people like to talk about themselves). People like to be around people that make them feel good. In the process maybe I can find some interesting people too.
I would really be interested in your thoughts on these thoughts. Thanks for reading