cumulus.james
Well-known member
I have been coming on this forum since my late 20's. Though I have enjoyed participating, it solved nothing. I've tried sleeping my way out of it, drinking my way out of it, clubbing my way out of it, gambling my way out of it, porn(ing?) my way out of it, and yes medicating my way out of it. Nothing works.
Nothing works.
It is time to stop with the endless advice on how to distract oneself from the loneliness, and start to accept that some of us will always be lonely. It is a permanent state. Once that is accepted, then what? What is the "treatment"? No matter how much Prozac or lamotrigine I'm still going to go to bed and wake up alone every day, I'm still going to spend every holiday and birthday alone, I'm still going to get older and older and lonelier and lonelier. I'm still going to be hurried by the state with no one to grieve for me.
A new approach to chronic loneliness is required. One that accepts it as a pathology which may persist for a lifetime. Then treatment and management can be developed.
Nothing works.
It is time to stop with the endless advice on how to distract oneself from the loneliness, and start to accept that some of us will always be lonely. It is a permanent state. Once that is accepted, then what? What is the "treatment"? No matter how much Prozac or lamotrigine I'm still going to go to bed and wake up alone every day, I'm still going to spend every holiday and birthday alone, I'm still going to get older and older and lonelier and lonelier. I'm still going to be hurried by the state with no one to grieve for me.
A new approach to chronic loneliness is required. One that accepts it as a pathology which may persist for a lifetime. Then treatment and management can be developed.