human_condition
Well-known member
And attention whores.
I've noticed on here that are several users that post reams of threads talking about how much they hate their lives, how they wish it could all be over, how no one understands the pain they're in, etc., etc., blah, blah.
I totally understand where they're coming from, and I honestly sympathise.
For the first thread.
But there are some that just keep coming back to get the same reaction from you kind and thoughtful members... it just makes me think... are they addicted to the sympathy?
I know this kind of thing is especially common among teenage girls- they'll say to their friends "Oh, my hair looks so ugly today." And wait for the moderated reaction of "Don't be ridiculous, it's perfect." If they don't recieve this reaction, they get all moody.
However, the more reassurance they get, the more they become reliant on what their friends think- they don't build up their own opinion of, say, how their hair looks- their self esteem becomes dependant on the opinions of others. That isn't healthy.
The same things apply here. People keep posting things like "Oh, I want to die" and "My life is a black hole"- well, it's the same for many of us, or we wouldn't be here. Don't depend on some meaningless internet people to define the meaning of your life and who you are- you have to learn to love yourself before others love you. And it is possible, other people can do it- why are you any different?
Life is harsh, but we all go through it, and in the end it's you who has to make the effort to stay on top, not a bunch of quick-fix compliments from people who don't even know you.
Flame all you want, but I only speak the truth.
I've noticed on here that are several users that post reams of threads talking about how much they hate their lives, how they wish it could all be over, how no one understands the pain they're in, etc., etc., blah, blah.
I totally understand where they're coming from, and I honestly sympathise.
For the first thread.
But there are some that just keep coming back to get the same reaction from you kind and thoughtful members... it just makes me think... are they addicted to the sympathy?
I know this kind of thing is especially common among teenage girls- they'll say to their friends "Oh, my hair looks so ugly today." And wait for the moderated reaction of "Don't be ridiculous, it's perfect." If they don't recieve this reaction, they get all moody.
However, the more reassurance they get, the more they become reliant on what their friends think- they don't build up their own opinion of, say, how their hair looks- their self esteem becomes dependant on the opinions of others. That isn't healthy.
The same things apply here. People keep posting things like "Oh, I want to die" and "My life is a black hole"- well, it's the same for many of us, or we wouldn't be here. Don't depend on some meaningless internet people to define the meaning of your life and who you are- you have to learn to love yourself before others love you. And it is possible, other people can do it- why are you any different?
Life is harsh, but we all go through it, and in the end it's you who has to make the effort to stay on top, not a bunch of quick-fix compliments from people who don't even know you.
Flame all you want, but I only speak the truth.