Alonewith2cats
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I welcome advice and constructive criticism. I am feeling really guilty right now. Last Sunday I went on a date with someone I met on-line who is a genuinely good person. I'm talking about someone who is kind, compassionate, a gentleman and a humanitarian. Someone who works in hospitals in countries like Afghanistan and Iraq. Someone who deserves to have someone fall in love with him. Unfortunately I did not feel any chemistry at all. I cannot fathom the idea of kissing him or having sex with him. I really do like him as a human being, just platonically. Of course I knew better than to say "Let's be friends." Men do not think this way and they don't join dating sites to be friends. This man does not live in the same city I do. I live in San Diego, he lives in Yuma, AZ, a 3 hour drive. Yes, he does have friends in San Diego and goes to medical conference meetings in Los Angeles. Still I have to appreciate the fact that he drove quite some distance to meet me. A stranger on line who we started with just chatting, then text messaging drove from Los Angeles to San Diego to meet me. We met in Balboa Park, visited the International Houses and spent several hours getting to know each other. Don't get me wrong, I did enjoy his company, I just like him as a friend. No sexual attraction, no romantic interest. But I admire him for the human being he is. I know he was attracted to me because when someone touches you a lot and gets affectionate, you know he likes you. The sad part of the date was at the end when he asked if I would like to meet again and I had to decline. I thanked him for taking the time to meet me, I told him that I enjoyed spending time with him and that I like him as a human being but I don't want him to drive the distance to meet me again because we're not going to be more than friends. I also told him that this has been my general on-line dating experience so far. I meet a lot of interesting people but I only like them platonically. At that point things got so awkward, so quiet. Then we said goodbye,shook hands and went our separate ways.
Why do I feel like a mean person? Is there anything I should have done differently?
Why do I feel like a mean person? Is there anything I should have done differently?