Does/has your loneliness negatively affect your career?

[The-One]

I wonder at this because this september I will start my final year of univerisity. My father are telling me off at how i'll be unemployed when i graduate from uni next year and how well the children of his friends are doing etc, "ohh look at that John from the Smiths, he went into Deloittes and is now been sent abroad to Singapore etc etc"


Since i'm lonely and have a sucky life so I predict a future life of clock in clock off at some crap job where i'm tread on and go home to beer, video games and pornography. basically just to simply not to end up on unemployment benefits (i'm in uk)

i am as demotivated for a graduate jobs market as can be and my parents keep yelling at me.

 

[samba101]

When your lonely nothing not even a job will appeal to you, that's just the way it goes. Life lacks appeal when we have a non existent social life.

 

[cheaptrickfan]

Since i'm lonely and have a sucky life so I predict a future life of clock in clock off at some crap job where i'm tread on and go home to beer, video games and pornography. basically just to simply not to end up on unemployment benefits (i'm in uk)

Much of my loneliness (other than the existential angst we all have) stems from NOT being employed. I always loved my job and it gave me a fulfilling aspect to my life. I made friends through work. Once I quit my career to have kids, my loneliness increased exponentially.

Part of my problem now is my continuing unemployment.

 

[kwilczynski]

In my case is exactly the opposite. I have good job and I earn more than I need. But because of my loneliness I have this tendency of working too hard, for too long hours, too much... am I a workaholic? I would say "no" - I work a lot to forget... about how lonely I am...

Anyway, there is plenty of work out there. Polish up CV, upload somewhere and be positive about it.

I am sure that you'll find something decent.

KW

 

[Van Hooligan X]

it has

 

[Zak]

It did before and too late to change

 

[heretostay]

my parents keep yelling at me.

it may be time for you to learn about boundaries with your parents. they can only yell at you if you keep allowing it. talk to them about how their words are affecting you, and if they continue to be negative towards you, you may need to consider not talking to them.

below is a link to help you get started in protecting yourself:
http://www.joy2meu.com/Personal_Boundaries.htm

 

[Jesse]

Yes, my loneliness has negatively affected my career. When my co-workers ask me if I have a gf and I tell them no, and they ask about my relationship history and I tell them I've not had a gf, they accuse me of being gay. I get depressed and when you're depressed it just sucks the life and energy out of you and you can't work as well as you normally could.

 

[Lebowski]

in the recent days its been effecting my golf game. i'm usually a great player but anymore i'm just swinging the club with 0 focus and 0 power. it is the worst sport to play when you are feeling down.

 

[Wyrm]

I did have a hard time at my part-time supermarket job for a short period, stemming from a (very) low point that I had after coming out of my depression. Luckily I work in a company that's very good to its employees, so my supervisors understood, and they're some of the people that I can thank for helping me get through that rough patch. In another company I would probably have been fired.

My performance at college too has improved after coming out of my shell and starting to interact with others.

 

[Punisher]

I did have a hard time at my part-time supermarket job for a short period, stemming from a (very) low point that I had after coming out of my depression. Luckily I work in a company that's very good to its employees, so my supervisors understood, and they're some of the people that I can thank for helping me get through that rough patch. In another company I would probably have been fired.

My performance at college too has improved after coming out of my shell and starting to interact with others.

That's awesome

 

[Wyrm]

It is! My life's definitely taking a turn for the better.

 

[indigo999]

Oh yes , I found that making friends and contacts at work was the key to advancement. Being so quiet made my manager treat me like I was mentally ill. I have no idea why I was so intimidated by people in authority. After all my manager tried came on to every young girl in the office and eneded up being with a girl 20 years younger than him. He was a very nasty piece of work.

 

[Maverick1989]

Well, it did affect my last school year tremendously... I was doing an internship of 6 months at a hospital as a servicedesk employee, and I kept coming late because life didn't appealed me anymore and i couldn't give a f**k. So eventually they fired me in my last month.
That seriously devastated me, it was the final push towards total self disregard... only thing i could think of was, i wished i didn't existed at all. Don't worry im to scared to do any kind of suicide, lol xD.
Anyway if there is a God out there, he's got some explaining to do when im there.

Just one tip, try venting through the internet on various websites, or even psychological video's. The internet is such a great place, it wont satisfy the need for social interaction... but it is a great source for knowledge and sharing your expierences with others, abuse it

 

[Sara]

In my current job I am happy. I have discovered that although I find it difficult to connect and create strong relationships, I am quite good dealing with public and blending with my coleagues at work. Definitelly working has improved my life as dealing positively with another people makes my loneliness when arriving home more bearable.

 

[johnayboy]

i actually have suffered, and gotten a lower grade average...... i was near 80% average now im 60%......fresia man im studying a fair bit too....

but, i do give up sometimes.....and, just go out with some people and get drunk. then, when i wake up hungover... i dont wanna do the work... cuz i feel sick.

i know its lame......
i dont even know why i get discouragde anymore....

somedays i cant do anything..... and, on others, i clean my entire house... cook, clean, do homework.... whatever

sometimes little things really fresia with me.....