blackdot said:hmmm.. not so sure about that one. i didn't start having friends until college.
College was a happy time when I was contained in an area with a lot of people my age. Since it was a small campus, everyone who lived on campus was right near everyone else.
It was after college that I went back to having no one due to no longer living in a contained area of people my age. Then when I would find someone to be friends with, they would get married and vanish again.
cassia said:That's interesting. College was when I really started to notice my social anxiety. I'm not sure why though. I guess part of it was the feeling (deluded or not) that people were expected to behave more like 'young adults'. I always felt like a bit of an outsider because I couldn't relate to things like sex, clubbing, alcohol, pot, parties, and so on, which was what "socializing" seemed to be about.
Why would getting married make someone disappear? When I got into a relationship I stopped hanging out with my "friends" (ie the people in college I hung out with, physically, but never felt very close to), but I never stopped talking to my overseas friends with whom I was very close. If anything I talked with them more, since I had so many stories to share.
Do you think being in the same age group is an important factor?
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