Foxxian
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I hope this is in the right spot..
To start I used to have a friend who I had met back in jr high, that was 14 years ago.. We had hit it off rather well, and we became like sisters. People even mistook us as being siblings we do kind of have similiar features.. although she is tall and plump, and I am average and plump.. but we both have wavey hair, and glasses. We of course had our spats, would stop talking for a while, then get back together again...
This time though.. it just feels different. What started it was a comment I had made on FB... I dont smoke, she does. My mother smokes, and was over to help me clean my apartment.. When we were done my mother went toward my balcony, I said "I dont want anyone smoking out there anymore. Its not allowed." My mother muttered something, I dont quite remember, and went out there and smoked anyhow. Its against the terms of my lease to allow anyone to smoke in the building, it could get me kicked out if they are caught. So angry and frustrated I made a post on my FB just to vent a little. My friend took it as an offense and jab at her, where it was actually not even about her or directed at her. She went into a rampage, said alot of rediculous things, such as for example, she compaired second hand smoke to car exhaust. She accused me of being selfish and inconsiderate, said I was trying to control her life.. and on and on with a lot of nonesense.
Anyhow.. I told her she should calm down, step away from the computer and take a breather. She continued, said "We would be both happier if we werent friends." So.. I kind of decided to give her a taste of her own medicin and removed her from my friends.. I just wanted her to cool down. A couple days later she sent me a nasty message.. she said: "I hope you enjoy your life locked up in your apartment. Ever wonder why nobody wants to be around you besides me? Maybe you should take a look in the mirror and realize that the world does NOT revolve around YOU. Maybe if you realize that you'll be able to make some friends. You're just like your mom and your niece. You're a spoiled brat and if you don't get your way you throw a temper tantrum.
That's why mom and dad don't like you. That's why nobody wants to give you a ride to the grocery store. That's EXACTLY what Alyssa told me. You're a selfish spoiled brat and she can't stand to be around you either."
(had that still in my FB messanger even after all this time... i hadnt been back there in a while after this...)
It still really burns.. I was really really hurt after that, and it still makes me want to cry knowing this person who had been my best friend, and only friend, for so long thought so poorly of me just because I didnt want to be smoked around.. I honestly dont see how she sees me as being spoiled.. I cant remember all the times she came crying to me, how many meals I treated her to, dinners I made for her, let her crash at my apartment when she needed it.. I even this year offered to take her to the fair and pay her way fully since I knew at the time she was unemployed..
Anyway.. A couple weeks ago I contacted her again in an attempt to make amends. I didnt point any fingers at her, or call her names... She responded with saying I needed to get help and rambled on with some shrink babble she had gotten from her shrink. She continued to say that I was spoiled and bossy.. I asked her for an example of this and the only thing she told me was thing with the cigerettes.. she accused me of "demonizing" smokers.. where as I have nothing against smokers, I just dont want to breathe in second hand smoke, especially in my own home.. She then went on to say that she was never wrong in any of our arguments, that I was always wrong, and she just pretended to be wrong to appease me... She then went on to say she didnt want to talk to me anymore.. I told her fine, that I wasnt going to sit and be verbally abused and treated so poorly by someone I cared about and loved like a sister. I told her I tried at least... and that was the end of it.
I have a feeling that there is far more to what had happened then just cigerettes.. I think she had been sick of me for a very long time and the comment about cigerettes had been the catalist.. I honestly dont know what I did still to make her hate me so much.. As you can see it still really bothers me.. I miss my best friend, but at this point there is little I can do.. a week ago I even dreamed that we were still friends.. I woke up, realized we werent and started crying..
Sorry for rambling..
To start I used to have a friend who I had met back in jr high, that was 14 years ago.. We had hit it off rather well, and we became like sisters. People even mistook us as being siblings we do kind of have similiar features.. although she is tall and plump, and I am average and plump.. but we both have wavey hair, and glasses. We of course had our spats, would stop talking for a while, then get back together again...
This time though.. it just feels different. What started it was a comment I had made on FB... I dont smoke, she does. My mother smokes, and was over to help me clean my apartment.. When we were done my mother went toward my balcony, I said "I dont want anyone smoking out there anymore. Its not allowed." My mother muttered something, I dont quite remember, and went out there and smoked anyhow. Its against the terms of my lease to allow anyone to smoke in the building, it could get me kicked out if they are caught. So angry and frustrated I made a post on my FB just to vent a little. My friend took it as an offense and jab at her, where it was actually not even about her or directed at her. She went into a rampage, said alot of rediculous things, such as for example, she compaired second hand smoke to car exhaust. She accused me of being selfish and inconsiderate, said I was trying to control her life.. and on and on with a lot of nonesense.
Anyhow.. I told her she should calm down, step away from the computer and take a breather. She continued, said "We would be both happier if we werent friends." So.. I kind of decided to give her a taste of her own medicin and removed her from my friends.. I just wanted her to cool down. A couple days later she sent me a nasty message.. she said: "I hope you enjoy your life locked up in your apartment. Ever wonder why nobody wants to be around you besides me? Maybe you should take a look in the mirror and realize that the world does NOT revolve around YOU. Maybe if you realize that you'll be able to make some friends. You're just like your mom and your niece. You're a spoiled brat and if you don't get your way you throw a temper tantrum.
That's why mom and dad don't like you. That's why nobody wants to give you a ride to the grocery store. That's EXACTLY what Alyssa told me. You're a selfish spoiled brat and she can't stand to be around you either."
(had that still in my FB messanger even after all this time... i hadnt been back there in a while after this...)
It still really burns.. I was really really hurt after that, and it still makes me want to cry knowing this person who had been my best friend, and only friend, for so long thought so poorly of me just because I didnt want to be smoked around.. I honestly dont see how she sees me as being spoiled.. I cant remember all the times she came crying to me, how many meals I treated her to, dinners I made for her, let her crash at my apartment when she needed it.. I even this year offered to take her to the fair and pay her way fully since I knew at the time she was unemployed..
Anyway.. A couple weeks ago I contacted her again in an attempt to make amends. I didnt point any fingers at her, or call her names... She responded with saying I needed to get help and rambled on with some shrink babble she had gotten from her shrink. She continued to say that I was spoiled and bossy.. I asked her for an example of this and the only thing she told me was thing with the cigerettes.. she accused me of "demonizing" smokers.. where as I have nothing against smokers, I just dont want to breathe in second hand smoke, especially in my own home.. She then went on to say that she was never wrong in any of our arguments, that I was always wrong, and she just pretended to be wrong to appease me... She then went on to say she didnt want to talk to me anymore.. I told her fine, that I wasnt going to sit and be verbally abused and treated so poorly by someone I cared about and loved like a sister. I told her I tried at least... and that was the end of it.
I have a feeling that there is far more to what had happened then just cigerettes.. I think she had been sick of me for a very long time and the comment about cigerettes had been the catalist.. I honestly dont know what I did still to make her hate me so much.. As you can see it still really bothers me.. I miss my best friend, but at this point there is little I can do.. a week ago I even dreamed that we were still friends.. I woke up, realized we werent and started crying..
Sorry for rambling..