tom_lonely
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I'm 42, married with 3 children.
I love my wife, but we're not friends like I'd like to be friends. And I don't know how to "fix" that. She's not into ANYTHING that I like to do. We have in common our love for our children, our desire to build a life together, etc. We enjoy the time we spend together. I like her. I love her. But she just isn't everything for me. I don't know how to define the hole inside me. All I know is that she does not fill it. Not completely.
Instead of waiting around for that to magically get better, I've decided to see if I can find what I need online. Not even knowing what I need. Hoping that I will know when I find it, I guess.
I've had many sexual relationships online with other women. Cybering, sexting, pic swapping, role playing. Having done that, I know it is not what I want. It is fun during, but can never go anywhere long term that is healthy for me, for my online sex "buddy", or for my real life. Once sex becomes part of the picture...the relationship seems to go downhill.
I want intimacy. I want someone to genuinely care about me. People tell me, "Well, that should be your wife" I would like it to be. But I just don't see that ever happening. I think my wife and I would both like that to happen, but it just is not in the cards for our personalities. She has her own baggage. I've tried to listen and help, but she holds onto it.
So, assuming that I could have a friendship with a woman online of some sort, how deep can it go? The only criteria would be that we never meet. I have never met anyone online in real life. I just don't think it is a good idea. Can an online friendship satisfy?
Please be considerate in your reply. Don't post if what I have said angers you. I don't need that drama. You can be angry or upset, but there is a way to go about it that is good, and a way that is bad.
And...I want to say something else.
If you read the above and you want to try and be that friend for me....please PM me. Perhaps we can have that friendship that will fill the hole for us both. I would really like that. : )
I love my wife, but we're not friends like I'd like to be friends. And I don't know how to "fix" that. She's not into ANYTHING that I like to do. We have in common our love for our children, our desire to build a life together, etc. We enjoy the time we spend together. I like her. I love her. But she just isn't everything for me. I don't know how to define the hole inside me. All I know is that she does not fill it. Not completely.
Instead of waiting around for that to magically get better, I've decided to see if I can find what I need online. Not even knowing what I need. Hoping that I will know when I find it, I guess.
I've had many sexual relationships online with other women. Cybering, sexting, pic swapping, role playing. Having done that, I know it is not what I want. It is fun during, but can never go anywhere long term that is healthy for me, for my online sex "buddy", or for my real life. Once sex becomes part of the picture...the relationship seems to go downhill.
I want intimacy. I want someone to genuinely care about me. People tell me, "Well, that should be your wife" I would like it to be. But I just don't see that ever happening. I think my wife and I would both like that to happen, but it just is not in the cards for our personalities. She has her own baggage. I've tried to listen and help, but she holds onto it.
So, assuming that I could have a friendship with a woman online of some sort, how deep can it go? The only criteria would be that we never meet. I have never met anyone online in real life. I just don't think it is a good idea. Can an online friendship satisfy?
Please be considerate in your reply. Don't post if what I have said angers you. I don't need that drama. You can be angry or upset, but there is a way to go about it that is good, and a way that is bad.
And...I want to say something else.
If you read the above and you want to try and be that friend for me....please PM me. Perhaps we can have that friendship that will fill the hole for us both. I would really like that. : )