Gambling problems

[breakthecycle]

I have no value in my pathetic life.. I go to school - go home doing nothing, feeling sorry for myself, and blame the world for being cruel and mean.
And the worst part is my gambling problem!!! It's not that I have lost tons of money, but i still lost some money that I could use elsewhere. I wan't to quit, but how?! It's kinda impossiable when your lonely like me, and dont have any friends or other interest
I even told my parents about it, but they just said i was depressed.

But the great feeling about gambling is when you win, you feel succesfull, which i haven't felt in real life since i dont know when. LOSER

I don't know about rehab, all i really need is value in life besides my family.

Can anyone here relate?

 

[Bluey]

The only way I can relate to that is by smoking. I used to smoke and did for years. I was very much addicted. I live on my own and have no job and no GF. So all in all a lot of time to wast. I tried to give the habit up many times be for I was eventually was able to. What I think helped me is the last time I tried to give up I Burt my self a PC and I think that's why I was able to stop that time and not any of the other times because by having a PC I had something to occupy my time with.

I do think gambling can be an addiction. What are the times when you gambol. Make a plane to do something else in that time. When you feel like you have to escape instead of gambling try and think of something else you can do.

And remember the buzz you get from wining might be good the same as the buzz that I got from smoking felt. But at the same time that was something that would had eventually killed me. With the gambling you have to remember there are only ever one winner and that's the ppl that take your bets. You might win but all in all you well lose. But you know that all ready right? Doesn't hurt to remind your self of that.

How much would you spend a week on gambling? Put that away and when it gets to a certain amount go and buy your self something you would like but maybe other wise would not have. Gives you something to look forward to and moor of an incentive to not gambol. Cos after all your guaranteed to have that money if you don't gambol.

This is all simple stuff just I think it kinder makes it moor clear when someone else says it.

 

[breakthecycle]

Thanks Bluey.
I will try to take a break from gambling for now. Actually you have to ask yourself : How much do you want to lose on a week.

I tried to take breaks from gambling, and i manged it very well, but sooner or later i be back.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

I'm not sure where you live.
There's Gambler Anonymouse or GA. It's a 12 step base recovery program.
It a support group where you can seek help from others.

The 12 steps is living program. The conception is that you'll learn to live a better
life that you don't need to go gambling or escape into the many other addictions.
It is progressive. it dosn't happen over nite...and it won't get better.

If you google GA..there's a 1-800- hot line. You will directed to a person that
will talk to you. You also do more reserch or ask for a package of informations
that can be mail to you.

The trick is not to stop...anyone and everyone had stopped or tried to manage addictions. 1 is too many and a 1000 is not enough.
The key is to stay stopped. The 12 steps is used to giveyou better living tools and copping skills to deal with life.
well..you know some people say..it's hard to deal with hard times
Also at the tokken....addicts don't know how to handle happiness either...some people self sabatage becuase happiness feels wierd.
Some people feel or think they don't deserve to be happy.

Some poeple will say it the quality of your recovery that the 12 steps offers.

If you're trying to stop..you'll go through mental withdraws...when gambling
time comes around....you body clock or routine.

An addiction is an addiction. Gambling is just as devistating as any other addictions.
You go through the same cycle, but gambling is more cunning becuase there's not
a physical addiction involved. However there's the mental obsession or compulsion.
Any casino or on line gaming site had invested billions into this study. The slot machines
or games are designed to get you hook......of course. It's a rush as you said.
After a while...you become nothing more then a rat in a cage. Tap the bottoms over and
over again until you get a stimulation....the whistle and bells...of course.
Casinos are also designed to keep you in. Very few exits, no clock, no day light.
Security grauds station near the exits....as intemination...to keep you away from the exit.


Some people gamble because it's an escape..becuase they feel thier lives are out of thier control.
By gambling it gives a person a sense of control...even though a person knows it's bad or not
so healthy. A combination of a rush and also the hydrilen to get the heart pumping.

anyway, there's alot of issues. Much can be discuss. I can write a couple of books.
But my english and grammer is not so well...i might confussed ya or you might miss understand me.

The first step is addmiting there's a problem or you have a problem and no longer live in denial.
Addiction is cunning, baffling and powerful.

mmm...I'm not a high roller, but I've lost a couple of thousands in a night before.
On the average I was spending $500 a week....wasting my life away as a rat in a cage
in a zoo call casinos.

The first time i went gambling was just for fun on a weekend get away.
We had dinner , won $20...stayed only for a couple of hours. Didn't even think much
of it nor even know it would lead to a lot of heartaches or dystructions.
Hell...i was afriad to drop a $.25 into a machine.
At the height of it...I was slaming a couple of hundreds into a machine making $20 bets
per hand....Serching for that ultimate rush of course. Over a 5 years period I probably
losted $300000.00 usd. A freaken House
I bascailly paid a section of the casino to get remodeled......

I'm not sure what your bottom is..but mine was that i was sitting in room full of people
in a casino...it was loud as hell....it hitted me between the eyes....I felt so empty, losted and alone.
My gf was only 10 feet away from me.

To break my habits...I purchase a PC slot machine game.....no internet connections...lol
I racked up millions and millions of pionts. it stimulated my mind for a little while but it
was fake gamling...I basically got tired of it oneday becuase I felt i was wasting my life
away being stuck to a PC all the time. Then i started obessing in writing music and playing my guitar.lol
Living a balance life style had always been a struggle for me....I'm an addict...I can addicted to whatever.

 

[samba101]

Yes I can relate to you Breakthecycle I would gamble by myself to it was the only friend I had at the time and the only company too. It started out as just a little fun, playing one line with one credit and I was happy with that. Then I realised with my social anxiety that it started to become my haven whenever I felt uncomfortable with people around me, nothing wrong with them but I just lacked the social skills to mix and enjoy myself and soon enough I found myself out of the social circle and unable to interact so it became my solace. I would go crazy having nothing to do on the weekends and nowhere to go as my partner at that time worked until the evening so here was I finding an enjoyment where I could loose all my concerns for a while. It was fine to begin with I had my limits and then I started becoming dependent on winning, it sure wasn't for the money because I had that it was for the excitement it held waiting for the next spin to win free spins and hoping the next push of the button would bring this. I started to become addicted but luckily I never spent the rent money or the money I needed for the bills, just spent everything else on it and waited till the next pay day. My addiction became to big but luckily I saw the light and slowy stopped gambling, now I'm not in a position to play anymore as I can not afford to but I know what you mean sooner or later you end up there looking for companionship from the only thing that brings you enjoyment it reall is a catch 22 situation.