TheSolitaryMan
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Hey everyone, first post. Nice to meet you all ![Smile :) :)](data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7)
I figured I'd dive right into what's eating me up right now. I'm a 19 year old guy, pretty shy and quiet, I don't drink or go out much, generally keep myself to myself.
I can socialise pretty well when I try, but I usually just listen unless I actually have something to say that has some meaning. I'm not a chatterbox type![Smile :) :)](data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7)
Right now I'm studying a field of science at University. I've never had a girlfriend in my life, haven't kissed a girl or anything as pathetic as that sounds. I've had plenty of girls-that-are-friends but unfortunately that's not the same thing at all.
This kind of changed recently. I met a pretty, very intelligent and fun to be around girl on my course. While I liked her from the moment I saw her, she was actually the one that approached me.
I was sitting in a lecture and she came and sat next to me and even kind of cuddled up a bit - took me very much by surprise!
So that was about 3 months ago. Since then I have not officially "asked her out" as in "Will you be my GF?", but we've watched a bunch of movies at her place, hugged a few times and still get on great when we chat.
Last time I saw her, a few days back, she was suggesting we go on a proper night out together to a bunch of different venues.
The last couple of days I've been thinking of asking her out because I really like her. Almost at the exact same time I thought this, she has started just blanking me. Completely ignoring me!
It's so weird, I've talked to my girls-that-are-friends and they can't figure it out either. Apparently she has gone almost totally quiet to them too.
I will smile at her and say hello, and she will now just walk past without even looking. Over the last couple of days she makes a point of sitting away from me when we're working (which suggests "Deal's off"), but then she'll suddenly come over and sit with me again, or start engaging me in conversation.
I've asked her what's up in an online chat program: no response. Haven't got round to asking her in RL because I hardly see her now.
Similarly, she never seems to text or call me, but she'll always text or call someone else to ask me for something or to talk to me - I really don't get it.
Next day, she'll come up to me and start cuddling up again.
If she just wasn't interested that'd be fine, but she switches almost every day between apparently really liking me and then not being bothered. I think partly it may be the workload we're under (she's very behind at the moment), but at the same time I don't know for sure.
Being lonely (as I have been for years), really really sucks. But I'm actually starting to think this form of "half and half" is even worse. The minute I get comfortable thinking one thing I get jerked around to feeling something else.
Anyone got any deep insights into what aspect of the female psyche feels it neccessary to torture me?
Thanks to anyone who takes the time to read this![Wink ;) ;)](data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7)
I figured I'd dive right into what's eating me up right now. I'm a 19 year old guy, pretty shy and quiet, I don't drink or go out much, generally keep myself to myself.
I can socialise pretty well when I try, but I usually just listen unless I actually have something to say that has some meaning. I'm not a chatterbox type
Right now I'm studying a field of science at University. I've never had a girlfriend in my life, haven't kissed a girl or anything as pathetic as that sounds. I've had plenty of girls-that-are-friends but unfortunately that's not the same thing at all.
This kind of changed recently. I met a pretty, very intelligent and fun to be around girl on my course. While I liked her from the moment I saw her, she was actually the one that approached me.
I was sitting in a lecture and she came and sat next to me and even kind of cuddled up a bit - took me very much by surprise!
So that was about 3 months ago. Since then I have not officially "asked her out" as in "Will you be my GF?", but we've watched a bunch of movies at her place, hugged a few times and still get on great when we chat.
Last time I saw her, a few days back, she was suggesting we go on a proper night out together to a bunch of different venues.
The last couple of days I've been thinking of asking her out because I really like her. Almost at the exact same time I thought this, she has started just blanking me. Completely ignoring me!
It's so weird, I've talked to my girls-that-are-friends and they can't figure it out either. Apparently she has gone almost totally quiet to them too.
I will smile at her and say hello, and she will now just walk past without even looking. Over the last couple of days she makes a point of sitting away from me when we're working (which suggests "Deal's off"), but then she'll suddenly come over and sit with me again, or start engaging me in conversation.
I've asked her what's up in an online chat program: no response. Haven't got round to asking her in RL because I hardly see her now.
Similarly, she never seems to text or call me, but she'll always text or call someone else to ask me for something or to talk to me - I really don't get it.
Next day, she'll come up to me and start cuddling up again.
If she just wasn't interested that'd be fine, but she switches almost every day between apparently really liking me and then not being bothered. I think partly it may be the workload we're under (she's very behind at the moment), but at the same time I don't know for sure.
Being lonely (as I have been for years), really really sucks. But I'm actually starting to think this form of "half and half" is even worse. The minute I get comfortable thinking one thing I get jerked around to feeling something else.
Anyone got any deep insights into what aspect of the female psyche feels it neccessary to torture me?
Thanks to anyone who takes the time to read this