Zackarydoo
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I really want to talk about the relationship I'm in, if it can be called that, but at the same time I'm scared of what people might say. I don't want to be told that I should get out while I can! I know that it might be the obvious answer to many people if I was to explain it all. It's very different when you're actually in a situation though. It's not like I'm blinded by love or anything and can't see straight - I'm totally rational and logical as far as that's possible. I just feel that when it comes to matters of love, when it 'feels' right, it really is possible to get over huge barriers. I've done it before so I should know.
I don't even know if I can call it a relationship. It's long distance and at the moment I can't even see how we'll ever meet, and for now I'm a 'secret' in her life to all but her closest friend. I hate that, but I understand why things are that way for now. No, she isn't cheating on anyone, and I'm not the 'other man'. We met online and speak most days now, and have been getting closer and closer since first writing in August. I told her before that if I met someone locally, I'd have to end things with her, as the situation for anything in the future seemed so unlikely and I didn't want to turn down a 'real' offer of someone to be with. I don't feel that way now though - I can't imagine letting her go, even if some miracle happened and I met someone locally (which is extremely unlikely, and PLEASE don't tell me it isn't).
One of the few online friends I have is very positive about things and tells me to be positive about it, as anything could happen in the future. However, the woman herself has made it very clear that the situation she is in won't change any time soon, as if she's trying to put me off - But then she seems very sure about me and not wanting things to end. She says it's because she cares so much about me and doesn't want me to get hurt, and she's afraid she may hurt me. She says she wouldn't intentionally do it but she may be forced to end it if 'something' happened (I'd rather not get into details here). I'm afraid of being hurt too, but I can't end it 'just in case' I get hurt. No relationship would work if people did that.
Every day I drive myself crazy waiting to hear from her and hoping she'll speak to me, and hoping whatever plans we may have to speak that day won't change (like they often do). It's the same today - I'm supposed to be calling her at 3pm my time, but I don't have much confidence that she'll actually keep that arrangement as almost everything else in her life comes first (mainly due to her children).
Hmmmmm.....I guess I just need someone to talk to. Thanks for listening everyone. I'll go crawl back under my rock now. :shy:
I don't even know if I can call it a relationship. It's long distance and at the moment I can't even see how we'll ever meet, and for now I'm a 'secret' in her life to all but her closest friend. I hate that, but I understand why things are that way for now. No, she isn't cheating on anyone, and I'm not the 'other man'. We met online and speak most days now, and have been getting closer and closer since first writing in August. I told her before that if I met someone locally, I'd have to end things with her, as the situation for anything in the future seemed so unlikely and I didn't want to turn down a 'real' offer of someone to be with. I don't feel that way now though - I can't imagine letting her go, even if some miracle happened and I met someone locally (which is extremely unlikely, and PLEASE don't tell me it isn't).
One of the few online friends I have is very positive about things and tells me to be positive about it, as anything could happen in the future. However, the woman herself has made it very clear that the situation she is in won't change any time soon, as if she's trying to put me off - But then she seems very sure about me and not wanting things to end. She says it's because she cares so much about me and doesn't want me to get hurt, and she's afraid she may hurt me. She says she wouldn't intentionally do it but she may be forced to end it if 'something' happened (I'd rather not get into details here). I'm afraid of being hurt too, but I can't end it 'just in case' I get hurt. No relationship would work if people did that.
Every day I drive myself crazy waiting to hear from her and hoping she'll speak to me, and hoping whatever plans we may have to speak that day won't change (like they often do). It's the same today - I'm supposed to be calling her at 3pm my time, but I don't have much confidence that she'll actually keep that arrangement as almost everything else in her life comes first (mainly due to her children).
Hmmmmm.....I guess I just need someone to talk to. Thanks for listening everyone. I'll go crawl back under my rock now. :shy: