AnonymousMe
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ABrokenMan said:ABrokenMan:
What would she use guys for?
For self pleasure, validation and control. It is a theme I have experienced more than once. Last time i was on Facebook (late last summer) I checked her profile. She is still single at 50. And looking!
Someone like her is constantly on the prowl for guys who are honest and trustworthy. They know you will fall for the illusion if they shower you with attention and love-bomb you until they hook you. Then when they have control, they do whatever they please. It is all about them, not you or me. If you meet their needs, they will keep you around as one of a few, or many, but God forbid, if you ask for your needs to be met, you'll get devalued or discarded. Many of these people suffer from NPD or BPD, both are too detailed to go into here. Nonetheless, these people are extremely skilled in manipulating those whom they seek out for partners. Because they cannot handle being alone and unvalidated. They end up destroying every relationship by their actions.
It has taken me a lot of tears, pain and withdrawal to finally see things clearly.
I should have taken the college girl experience as an example of foreshadowing for the ladies who came into my life much later on.
Triple Bogey said:Buying love ?
I'm thinking of the male order bride thing. I often see Asian women with slightly older English men.
I wonder if that's how it happened. It's a brave thing to do but obviously it goes on and some people are happy doing it.
ninako said:Triple Bogey said:Buying love ?
I'm thinking of the male order bride thing. I often see Asian women with slightly older English men.
I wonder if that's how it happened. It's a brave thing to do but obviously it goes on and some people are happy doing it.
I believe you're thinking of the Middle East, where women are often traded off as slaves. We tend to see being pale as more attractive, so naturally Caucasians would be the target. Some arranged marriages likely still take place amongst wealthy traditional Asian families, but it's a little different from simple slavery.
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