Blue Sky
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Hi, I am new to this forum. For most of my life I have felt alone, it started when I was at primary school. I was bullied quite heavily at school and didn't know how to cope with it. The other boys at school wouldn't talk to me and they would gang up on me and isolate me. I am sure that this treatment has had an impact on the way I am today. When I went to secondary school I was treated better by the other classmates, my mother made sure that I didn't go to the same secondary school as the bullies from my past school. I did ok for the rest of my school years, but I was very shy and was very carefull about choosing friends. After my school years I joined the workforce and was quite successfull at my job. I had that job for many years until the company closed down. I got another job but I found it very hard to settle in and make friends amoungst the other workers. I found that after work I would come home and have a few drinks I would feel better. Over a period of time my drinking increased, and my feeling of loneliness and depression grew stronger. It got to a stage where I had to drink to excess everyday after work. In the end I thought if I get another job with another firm, things would get better.
I got another job, and things went from bad to worse. I tried very hard to fit in at this new job but I never felt accepted there. I started dating a woman from where I worked, and for a short period of time things went ok. But I was still drinking after work everyday and this didn't help my relationship at all. I split up with my girlfriend from work and alot of the other people at work chose her side to be on. I don't know what she said to my other work mates about me, but those feelings of isolation came back very strong.
After a short period of time I decided to leave that job because of the way I felt I was treated by the bosses and other employees. I have never told anyone that was my reason for leaving.
So for the first time in my life I was unemployed. I started drinking all day, everyday and quickly my life was on a downward spiral. I felt so alone, the friends that I did have started to stay away from me. I think that they thought I was having some kind of breakdown. Which I was. Later that year both of my parents passed away. I didn't cope very well with there passing but I managed to get through it somehow.
Over the next two years I tried to stop drinking, and eventually with the help of a support group I managed to stop. I haven't had a drink for two years now. But throughout this time I always felt lonely.
I got myself a little dog, I know it sounds corny but he keeps me company and is a good companion. I have tried other support groups in the past and doing some volunteer work but I have always found it hard to make new friends. So I keep to myself most of the time.
Lately I have been looking at going back into the workforce. I have been to many job interviews but I haven't been successfull as yet. But I won't give up. So I have been through quite alot in the passed few years, but somehow I have managed to come out the other side.
I still feel lonely most of the time, even within a group of people. But I don't feel depressed these days and I'll keep battling on.
Thanks for reading my story.
I got another job, and things went from bad to worse. I tried very hard to fit in at this new job but I never felt accepted there. I started dating a woman from where I worked, and for a short period of time things went ok. But I was still drinking after work everyday and this didn't help my relationship at all. I split up with my girlfriend from work and alot of the other people at work chose her side to be on. I don't know what she said to my other work mates about me, but those feelings of isolation came back very strong.
After a short period of time I decided to leave that job because of the way I felt I was treated by the bosses and other employees. I have never told anyone that was my reason for leaving.
So for the first time in my life I was unemployed. I started drinking all day, everyday and quickly my life was on a downward spiral. I felt so alone, the friends that I did have started to stay away from me. I think that they thought I was having some kind of breakdown. Which I was. Later that year both of my parents passed away. I didn't cope very well with there passing but I managed to get through it somehow.
Over the next two years I tried to stop drinking, and eventually with the help of a support group I managed to stop. I haven't had a drink for two years now. But throughout this time I always felt lonely.
I got myself a little dog, I know it sounds corny but he keeps me company and is a good companion. I have tried other support groups in the past and doing some volunteer work but I have always found it hard to make new friends. So I keep to myself most of the time.
Lately I have been looking at going back into the workforce. I have been to many job interviews but I haven't been successfull as yet. But I won't give up. So I have been through quite alot in the passed few years, but somehow I have managed to come out the other side.
I still feel lonely most of the time, even within a group of people. But I don't feel depressed these days and I'll keep battling on.
Thanks for reading my story.