IVIZ
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I'll try to keep this short, not really in the mood to type my thoughts down. Just thought this was a good moment that I should share for feedback. Why because there is something deeply wrong with me.
Well, I went to a dance like get together last night. I was on my own, a lot of good looking girls to dance with and just hang with. I was just trying to fit in with everyone and would try to dance with the crowd. Well eventually someone pokes me, I look behind and its someone who is pleasently happy to dance with me. We start talking, I find out that I look similar to an ex she used to be with a long time ago. (And I thought it was my good looks, hhmmm) Well, were having fun and we then move on outside where we can get some air. I really liked her, not because she was just another pretty face, but because she was somehow special and different. I can't describe why she was special, but she wasn't your common girl you meet at a party or get together. Anyways during all this everything seemed to be in autoplay, like I was dreaming and just went with the flow of how things would turn out. We get to know each other better, why because she insisted that I ask whatever I want about her. Well, I asked the typical questions and then move up to the akward "How come Me" questions. To me she seemed like someone filled with life and fun, I have no place with a person like that, its just that I always seem to put on a mask around people that I am an interesting and fun person, but in time I confess to them that I'm someone who will only drag their fun time down. She then tells me that I need to be more confident, I admited to her that yeah I lack a lot of confidence. Well, we both knew where this attraction for each other would lead us to, so I just made my move on her. But as we kissed, I felt NOTHING at all, just liplocking, passionate, run of the mill, french kissing. But I felt nothing during or after, it seemed that the only "drive" that I had to keep going with it was that I wanted her to feel good about it, I had a desire to make her happy. But still I was desensitised about the whole thing. This unsurprisingly reminded me that thats how I felt with my ex's. I never felt anything for them, pretty much it was just a sexual attraction, but not really anything close to "love". Ok, back on track, I decided to take her to see a movie. I had no intentions on exceding our moment together that night, no more than an innocent hookup. Like I said, this girl is special, but I really knew this was just a "you like me, I like you" thing just for that night. But I wanted to understand and pursue my own selfish question as to "why don't I feel anything?????". I didn't want to lead her on to someone that I knew was doomed to fail, but selfishly I guess I tried to "smuther" her, not to draw her away from me, but to see if anything inside me sparks. I remember I hated how my past relationships, it was always my fault that it ending with me being the problem, that I never had any feeling and didn't have any normal compassion for them. Well, I held on to her arm almost all night long!!! She seemed to like this alot, but I knew it would be akward, still I wanted to show that I cared for her, but in another way I wanted to feel something for her as my arm was always on her lap held tight by her hands (even while driving lol) Ok, later while watching the movie I would kiss her neck, she would lay her head on my shoulder. We seemed to look like a couple that had been together for months now. Before taking her home, we went at it (she seemed to be all for it and couldn't get enough of me). But I kept my bounderies and she didn't push anything. I take her home, give her a goodnight kiss. But we both sorta new it was just a "boyfriend girlfriend" for a night experience, we were both adults and knew that things need to be taken slowly to do it right. But unto this time, it all seemed like a dream to me, nothing felt real, nothing seemed to be true. I mean I have pictures on my cellphone of her and me, but even looking at them, it feels like thats not me and who is that? I don't think I'm in touch with reality and feeling at all. No wonder I don't work with relationships. I feel like a monster
There was a lot more that happened that I left out, just didn't feel like adding it. But thanks for reading, love to hear from feedback, I've been learning alot about what others think, as if my perception of life is out of touch or out of whack. I need to wake up!!!
Well, I went to a dance like get together last night. I was on my own, a lot of good looking girls to dance with and just hang with. I was just trying to fit in with everyone and would try to dance with the crowd. Well eventually someone pokes me, I look behind and its someone who is pleasently happy to dance with me. We start talking, I find out that I look similar to an ex she used to be with a long time ago. (And I thought it was my good looks, hhmmm) Well, were having fun and we then move on outside where we can get some air. I really liked her, not because she was just another pretty face, but because she was somehow special and different. I can't describe why she was special, but she wasn't your common girl you meet at a party or get together. Anyways during all this everything seemed to be in autoplay, like I was dreaming and just went with the flow of how things would turn out. We get to know each other better, why because she insisted that I ask whatever I want about her. Well, I asked the typical questions and then move up to the akward "How come Me" questions. To me she seemed like someone filled with life and fun, I have no place with a person like that, its just that I always seem to put on a mask around people that I am an interesting and fun person, but in time I confess to them that I'm someone who will only drag their fun time down. She then tells me that I need to be more confident, I admited to her that yeah I lack a lot of confidence. Well, we both knew where this attraction for each other would lead us to, so I just made my move on her. But as we kissed, I felt NOTHING at all, just liplocking, passionate, run of the mill, french kissing. But I felt nothing during or after, it seemed that the only "drive" that I had to keep going with it was that I wanted her to feel good about it, I had a desire to make her happy. But still I was desensitised about the whole thing. This unsurprisingly reminded me that thats how I felt with my ex's. I never felt anything for them, pretty much it was just a sexual attraction, but not really anything close to "love". Ok, back on track, I decided to take her to see a movie. I had no intentions on exceding our moment together that night, no more than an innocent hookup. Like I said, this girl is special, but I really knew this was just a "you like me, I like you" thing just for that night. But I wanted to understand and pursue my own selfish question as to "why don't I feel anything?????". I didn't want to lead her on to someone that I knew was doomed to fail, but selfishly I guess I tried to "smuther" her, not to draw her away from me, but to see if anything inside me sparks. I remember I hated how my past relationships, it was always my fault that it ending with me being the problem, that I never had any feeling and didn't have any normal compassion for them. Well, I held on to her arm almost all night long!!! She seemed to like this alot, but I knew it would be akward, still I wanted to show that I cared for her, but in another way I wanted to feel something for her as my arm was always on her lap held tight by her hands (even while driving lol) Ok, later while watching the movie I would kiss her neck, she would lay her head on my shoulder. We seemed to look like a couple that had been together for months now. Before taking her home, we went at it (she seemed to be all for it and couldn't get enough of me). But I kept my bounderies and she didn't push anything. I take her home, give her a goodnight kiss. But we both sorta new it was just a "boyfriend girlfriend" for a night experience, we were both adults and knew that things need to be taken slowly to do it right. But unto this time, it all seemed like a dream to me, nothing felt real, nothing seemed to be true. I mean I have pictures on my cellphone of her and me, but even looking at them, it feels like thats not me and who is that? I don't think I'm in touch with reality and feeling at all. No wonder I don't work with relationships. I feel like a monster
There was a lot more that happened that I left out, just didn't feel like adding it. But thanks for reading, love to hear from feedback, I've been learning alot about what others think, as if my perception of life is out of touch or out of whack. I need to wake up!!!