I'm noticing a pattern here. The guys that come after me are all the same. At first I thought it was the guys, that there was a certain type that likes to go after the freshly divorced. Or maybe they just hit on every girl that crosses their path. But then I noticed that they had certain similarities to my ex and that the problem might be me.
The guys that seem to like me, the ex included, they're a little too low on individuality and a little too high on neediness. Originally they all seem pretty nice, funny and charming and sensitive, if wanting to move a bit fast, but I realize now that with all of them I might as well just be holding up a mirror....the reason they seem interesting is b/c they're just molding themselves around my own personality. My interests immediately become their interests, my views their views, etc.
I'd like to think I've learned from my past mistakes, and while having a guy that seems to worship you definitely has its perks, it's not real and requires a lot more maintenance than I'd like to put into a relationship.
So....can anybody tell me what I'm doing to attract the phony sensitives? How do I unattract them?
The guys that seem to like me, the ex included, they're a little too low on individuality and a little too high on neediness. Originally they all seem pretty nice, funny and charming and sensitive, if wanting to move a bit fast, but I realize now that with all of them I might as well just be holding up a mirror....the reason they seem interesting is b/c they're just molding themselves around my own personality. My interests immediately become their interests, my views their views, etc.
I'd like to think I've learned from my past mistakes, and while having a guy that seems to worship you definitely has its perks, it's not real and requires a lot more maintenance than I'd like to put into a relationship.
So....can anybody tell me what I'm doing to attract the phony sensitives? How do I unattract them?