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wolfshadow
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Last night, I made my second excursion into the chat facility and found it a very difficult experience to negotiate my way through. Before this starts sounding derogatory,allow me to say that every single person I spoke to aquitted themselves extremely well so to anyone who hasn't used the chatroom, consider that an unreserved endorsement.
No, the struggle of which I speak is of self expression. It's very disheartening to know in advance that your conversational skillset (or lack thereof) will fail you. It's not a matter of if but rather of when, that that awful moment arrives when it finally dawns on the recipeint of your ramblings that you are not as intruiging, clever or engaging as their preconceptions may have told.
A long time ago, I visited a child psycologist (my sister found this a near endless source of amusement until she found herelf having to follow a pescription of anti depressants lol) and was informed that although I was fairly advanced in many respects, I was sorely lacking in what he referred to as "verbal reasoning skills". In my youthful impetuousness, this was something that I studiously ignored (simaltainously lending credance to his diagnosis). Foolishly, I never took the time to explore what this may imply for the future. There are three things that blight my interaction with others and human
potential. Extremely poor short term memory, the distinct absence of a meaningful concentration span and last by by no means least, a towering pressure to try and compensate for these things.
A while ago I read somewhere that there is a bit of the brain that is responsible for governing associative memory. In other words when someonesays something to you, it opens a pathway in your head that enables you to consciously recall everything you know about the subject at hand. I suspect that in me this area either isn't properly developed or has somehow been damaged. I shipped a lot of blows to the head during my adolescance and early twenties so perhaps blunt trauma may be a factor (athough I speak fairly well so the theory is still unproven).
Why am I documenting this and why also would anyone here wish to know this? The latter is up to you but my motive for placing this monologue is twofold. Firstly it's a simple plea to anyone that's thinking about talking to me, don't allow my reletively decent grasp of the language fool you into thinking I'm more than I really am. If someone engages with me assuming the best two things will happen, they will come away feeling dissappointed and I will come away feeling angry with myself and slightly inadaquate. Secondly because I wish to pose the question, if verbal or text-based communication is a legitimate hardship unto itself, is this site really the right place to confront loneliness?
A little footnote to unacceptance, if you read this and for some reason are inspired to remark upon it, please do so with any tone you desire - after the last time I've come to realise that whatever comes after the OP belongs to the public.
No, the struggle of which I speak is of self expression. It's very disheartening to know in advance that your conversational skillset (or lack thereof) will fail you. It's not a matter of if but rather of when, that that awful moment arrives when it finally dawns on the recipeint of your ramblings that you are not as intruiging, clever or engaging as their preconceptions may have told.
A long time ago, I visited a child psycologist (my sister found this a near endless source of amusement until she found herelf having to follow a pescription of anti depressants lol) and was informed that although I was fairly advanced in many respects, I was sorely lacking in what he referred to as "verbal reasoning skills". In my youthful impetuousness, this was something that I studiously ignored (simaltainously lending credance to his diagnosis). Foolishly, I never took the time to explore what this may imply for the future. There are three things that blight my interaction with others and human
potential. Extremely poor short term memory, the distinct absence of a meaningful concentration span and last by by no means least, a towering pressure to try and compensate for these things.
A while ago I read somewhere that there is a bit of the brain that is responsible for governing associative memory. In other words when someonesays something to you, it opens a pathway in your head that enables you to consciously recall everything you know about the subject at hand. I suspect that in me this area either isn't properly developed or has somehow been damaged. I shipped a lot of blows to the head during my adolescance and early twenties so perhaps blunt trauma may be a factor (athough I speak fairly well so the theory is still unproven).
Why am I documenting this and why also would anyone here wish to know this? The latter is up to you but my motive for placing this monologue is twofold. Firstly it's a simple plea to anyone that's thinking about talking to me, don't allow my reletively decent grasp of the language fool you into thinking I'm more than I really am. If someone engages with me assuming the best two things will happen, they will come away feeling dissappointed and I will come away feeling angry with myself and slightly inadaquate. Secondly because I wish to pose the question, if verbal or text-based communication is a legitimate hardship unto itself, is this site really the right place to confront loneliness?
A little footnote to unacceptance, if you read this and for some reason are inspired to remark upon it, please do so with any tone you desire - after the last time I've come to realise that whatever comes after the OP belongs to the public.