I'm completely lonely at school!!

[Gelorsan]

I'm in grade 10 and I haven't got ANY friends at school. I feel so alone always - and I feel so small whenever I see my classmates talking with each other and having fun.

I swear, I swear I tried my BEST to make friends, but it doesn't work. And now I've completely given up.

I just joined my school this year hoping that I'll make friends. My previous school was a gazallion times worse.

Anyways, I'll NEVER try to socialise with my mean classmates again now that I have such amazing people in this forum =D

My elder sister is married and my Dad is mostly out at work so most of the time it is only me and my mom at home. I feel so lonely.

I'm just glad to be here.

 

[ExtensivexLDL]

I was like you once and then i started improving.. except it was a little too late.. high school was finished and losered it away.. DON'T let this become you.. start improving ASAP.. here, a resource which i found useful and got the ball rolling: www.succeedsocially.com.
take care and don't give up

 

[Caesium]

I'm in Grade 11, just started at a new school, and am pretty lonely there. My last school was worse. My dad is also away a lot for work.

Welcome to AlonelyLife.com, Gelorsan.

 

[Unacceptance]

School isn't permanent, eventually you leave.

 

[SighX99]

high school sucks. Heres a tip: You probably wont see most of your high school acquaintances after you graduate.

I wish someone had told me that before graduate. I ended up making a lot of friends in my senior year... then after high school graduation (quite literally) i dont see any of them. only certain few... but they had bad blood so i dont talk to any of them no more.

 

[bear]

I know what you mean. I had a few close friends for most of my secondary-school life, but then I moved house and moved school, and the last two years of secondary school were just hell.

Because everyone knew everyone there, and I knew nobody, and nobody knew me, it was a struggle. It was always them and me, and it soon began to affect my education, as my grades got worse and worse. The loneliness kept eating away at me, and I just could not concentrate on anything apart from being somewhere else.

I really have nothing to say, except make sure that whatever you do, do not let the loneliness affect your education, because that is what counts. It will be hard, believe me, I know, and concentrating when you are unhappy is nigh on impossible.

What I tried to do was, since we were amongst the senior students in the school, we were allowed to go off school grounds when not in lessons. Since I didn't have many friends to talk to, I used to go for a walk, and find a nice quiet spot outside the grounds, and chill. It helped of sorts, because I was not surrounded by that atmosphere, and the immediate surroundings of a place which I associated with depression, and isolation.

I know you might not be allowed to go outside school grounds, but if not, try and go for walks when you can, just to revitalize yourself.

And remember to not let it get in the way of your education...

 

[Gelorsan]

Thanks for the help guys

 

[--Lanie--]

maybe instead of just trying to "live through it" you should try to fix it? Because social skills are social skills and people are pretty much the same everywhere. i mean after you finish school you'll probably go to u or college and you will have to make friends there again, and then again at work.. and if you don't practice and remain alone you will be in the same situation again and again. I know it's hard. I myself can talk to people but don't have close friends or even just friends (at least according to my own definition of this word..) And yes i used to think the same way "that's just cuz i came to a new school (and country) and everybody's got friends already". But now i realize that this was just my excuse not to do anything and to hope that after i graduate all of a sudden people will start making friends with me...
this was a convenient excuse because it meant that there was something wrong with THEM, not with ME... but since you cannot change other people you should change yourself and the first step is to admit that there IS something to change, second-- figure out what, third -- do it. (I personally am kind of stuck at the second step )

 

[heretostay]

i can really relate to you. i had such a hard time in high school. it was probably the most stressful time of my life and im just so glad its over. i think the only reason i had any friends was because i was really good at sports and the people on my team liked me, or at least hung out with me, for that reason. My Jr. year was the hardest though. the girl i hung out with got a boyfriend so i was pretty much a loner. it was just awful. just hang in there. it does end. and remember you're going to school for a good job, not for a social life. i wish some one had of explained that to me. if you stay in school, make good grades, go to college, then you'll get a good job and things wont be so bad.

 

[--Lanie--]

stay in school, make good grades, go to college, then you'll get a good job and things wont be so bad.

i don't think being lonely at work is any better than being lonely at school or at colledge..

 

[strobefire]

I think the best opportunity to make friends in high school is through after school activities. Do you enjoy sports? Maybe there's a sport that you can join that doesn't require tryouts, like track. You might also try joining an activities club. Even if there's nothing that interests you, clubs like to get people involved and at least you won't be bored.

Best of luck, it must be tough going to a new school.

 

[evanescencefan91]

*hugs gelorsan*

i know what you mean i'm in the exactly same boat

i wish i had some advice for you,

i guess stay busy, try to find some distractions or activities to get your mind off it and just try to get through it the best you can
I'm a senior right now so i'm just looking forward to a new start at college and i've been lonely these past two years

i wish you the best of luck

by the way you're always welcome to pm me so we can rant about how much highschool sucks

 

[MingJP]

I think I understand how you feel - I was enrolled in my year 10 drama class. It always required you to do activities with a partner, or a group - and it was so awkward. I wanted to make friends - but honestly, many were just not worth making. They were rude, insensitive, and almost always d*ckheads.

I felt very lonely and lost there, and there was bullying everywhere. I regret joining that class.

I hope that you'll make 1 friend - I only have 2 best friends, and they are what keep my high school life going. I assure you that at least someone will want to be friends with you - just smile and go with the flow. Are you going to a new school this year or are you there already?

Since you're new, people will forgive you for being awkward or shy! It's okay! Just remember that you have to make friends WHO ARE NICE. NO BULLIES. When you are new, you don't know who are the bad ones and the good ones. Look for what each person says. If they are rude, and tease others and make them feel uncomfortable make friends with the victim. Usually a nice person who really needs an extra friend.

When you have a friend, it'll feel good. At least that's what I've always thought (I've been lucky). I've only been awkward for one year (that was the year 10 drama class). I honestly by the end of the year just didn't go to class. It was such an awful atmosphere. I'm sure you'll make friends

And friends aren't that necessary - family is always a big support. Are you very connected your family?