Is it wrong?
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Mary Mary
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Personally, I don't have a moral issue with prostitution, but there are aspects of it that concern me. Why would you think it was wrong?
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A lot of prostitutes are there by force, just do your best to make sure you are with a woman who is there by choice and all your universal karma points should be fine 
If you are in a big city there are a lot more underage prostitutes, so if she looks really young, she is. If you think its a cop, it is. If it feels wrong, stop. You dont have to go through with it just because shes there.
That said, in my mid 20's (a few years ago lol) I was an escort for a brief amount of time, you can see my posts a bit further down the roster. This was before craigslist was forced to change their erotic section. I didnt have a pimp, and of course never wanted one, I didnt work for a service either. The men I saw were basically just your regular every day normal guy. They were nice and respectful. I even had one guy who I saw a few times that was a very skilled lover, he was decent looking, had a good body, and a sexy accent. I figure he just liked prostitutes lol.
I think the saying "You get what you pay for" really counts when it comes to buying sex, the more you pay the better chances you are getting a decent woman (as decent as a prostitute is) who is there by her own choice. $300 is really not much to spend for good pussy imo.
Most important, be careful! Dont get busted!
If you are in a big city there are a lot more underage prostitutes, so if she looks really young, she is. If you think its a cop, it is. If it feels wrong, stop. You dont have to go through with it just because shes there. That said, in my mid 20's (a few years ago lol) I was an escort for a brief amount of time, you can see my posts a bit further down the roster. This was before craigslist was forced to change their erotic section. I didnt have a pimp, and of course never wanted one, I didnt work for a service either. The men I saw were basically just your regular every day normal guy. They were nice and respectful. I even had one guy who I saw a few times that was a very skilled lover, he was decent looking, had a good body, and a sexy accent. I figure he just liked prostitutes lol.
I think the saying "You get what you pay for" really counts when it comes to buying sex, the more you pay the better chances you are getting a decent woman (as decent as a prostitute is) who is there by her own choice. $300 is really not much to spend for good pussy imo.
Most important, be careful! Dont get busted!
Badjedidude
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It's not WRONG to feel anything, really... unless it's something like feeling joy about children being raped and murdered or something like that.
However, using escort services and prostitutes is, in my opinion, morally and ethically wrong. Why? Because you're only further harming yourself and possibly causing damage to others as well. Maybe those women aren't doing it willingly, maybe the money you're spending on her goes to a bad person, etc etc.
Overall it's just more healthy (physically, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, etc) to just do your best to become the best person you can and to actively seek out willing partners.
*shrug*
But like I said, that's how I see things.
And after saying that, I must admit that I would really enjoy a huge ice-cream hooker orgy.
However, using escort services and prostitutes is, in my opinion, morally and ethically wrong. Why? Because you're only further harming yourself and possibly causing damage to others as well. Maybe those women aren't doing it willingly, maybe the money you're spending on her goes to a bad person, etc etc.
Overall it's just more healthy (physically, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, etc) to just do your best to become the best person you can and to actively seek out willing partners.
*shrug*
But like I said, that's how I see things.
And after saying that, I must admit that I would really enjoy a huge ice-cream hooker orgy.
LGH1288
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septicemia said:
Sorry, no comment...not my thang:-(
ChiCowboy said:Hmmm... The way I see it, a blow job isn't too much to expect for a ride on my Harley.
Hi Cowboy -- Put that tongue back unless you plan on using it, luvaah
Stephanie
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If you have already err---used the services of an 'escort', this post will be too late for you personally, but maybe it will give someone else something to consider.
Due to the prevalence of sexually transmitted diseases, the chance of pregnancy, etc, your sexual history is part of your medical history. When you do you meet a woman that you actually develop a meaningful relationship with; before you have sex, she has a right to know your sexual history because of the consequences of having sex with someone: disease, children, etc. Ask yourself, "Do I really want to have to explain to the potential love of my life why I messed a prostitute instead of finding a willing partner?" This is especially true in this day and age when hooking up with people is easier than ever.
I won't pretend I understand why a man would want to pay for sex rather than go to the extra effort of finding a willing partner. Everyone is different and has their reasons, but I would definitely want to know if a potential partner had been with a prostitute because I would insist they get tested for EVERYTHING. I would also want to know the psychological reasons for seeking out a prostitute.
Someone above (I'm sorry, I don't remember exactly who) mentioned something about it also being harmful to the other person. That's another thing that bothers me about prostitution. Too many of the people who are being paid to provide sex (men or women) have suffered so much emotional, mental, probably physical and sexual abuse, that every time they are with someone, it takes something more away from them. They may not realize it at the time, but given some of the posts of Septicemia's that I've read here, it seems to be true and she wouldn't be the only one. I personally wouldn't want to cause anyone any further emotional/mental harm and that is why I find prostitution, as a practice, so repulsive. This isn't a judgment against those who are or have been prostitutes. Just the thought of using someone so callously just doesn't sit well with me without thought or consideration of their situation. Maybe I just don't like the idea of sex as a business transaction rather than the expression of affection, tenderness and love between two people. But that's just me.
But consider the future woman you might end up with. Do you really want to have to tell her that you were with a prostitute at one point? And even if she doesn't want to know the details of your sexual history, she does have the right to expect that you are disease-free. If you get tested and you're disease-free, then you may never have to tell her that. But some women will want to know the details of your sexual history for whatever reasons they have and they may feel the way I do about it and consider it a potential deal-breaker. I'm not saying you should feel you have to lie in order to not lose a potential love interest: that lie could later become a deal breaker if the truth is discovered, but questioning how you would deal with these sorts of issues before you hook up with a prostitute and how you would potentially deal with them can be helpful to you in the long run. Ask yourself, given the potential consequences, is this really what I need? If you feel it is, then do what you need to do. But if you think you might regret it later, DON'T DO IT.
Good luck.
Due to the prevalence of sexually transmitted diseases, the chance of pregnancy, etc, your sexual history is part of your medical history. When you do you meet a woman that you actually develop a meaningful relationship with; before you have sex, she has a right to know your sexual history because of the consequences of having sex with someone: disease, children, etc. Ask yourself, "Do I really want to have to explain to the potential love of my life why I messed a prostitute instead of finding a willing partner?" This is especially true in this day and age when hooking up with people is easier than ever.
I won't pretend I understand why a man would want to pay for sex rather than go to the extra effort of finding a willing partner. Everyone is different and has their reasons, but I would definitely want to know if a potential partner had been with a prostitute because I would insist they get tested for EVERYTHING. I would also want to know the psychological reasons for seeking out a prostitute.
Someone above (I'm sorry, I don't remember exactly who) mentioned something about it also being harmful to the other person. That's another thing that bothers me about prostitution. Too many of the people who are being paid to provide sex (men or women) have suffered so much emotional, mental, probably physical and sexual abuse, that every time they are with someone, it takes something more away from them. They may not realize it at the time, but given some of the posts of Septicemia's that I've read here, it seems to be true and she wouldn't be the only one. I personally wouldn't want to cause anyone any further emotional/mental harm and that is why I find prostitution, as a practice, so repulsive. This isn't a judgment against those who are or have been prostitutes. Just the thought of using someone so callously just doesn't sit well with me without thought or consideration of their situation. Maybe I just don't like the idea of sex as a business transaction rather than the expression of affection, tenderness and love between two people. But that's just me.
But consider the future woman you might end up with. Do you really want to have to tell her that you were with a prostitute at one point? And even if she doesn't want to know the details of your sexual history, she does have the right to expect that you are disease-free. If you get tested and you're disease-free, then you may never have to tell her that. But some women will want to know the details of your sexual history for whatever reasons they have and they may feel the way I do about it and consider it a potential deal-breaker. I'm not saying you should feel you have to lie in order to not lose a potential love interest: that lie could later become a deal breaker if the truth is discovered, but questioning how you would deal with these sorts of issues before you hook up with a prostitute and how you would potentially deal with them can be helpful to you in the long run. Ask yourself, given the potential consequences, is this really what I need? If you feel it is, then do what you need to do. But if you think you might regret it later, DON'T DO IT.
Good luck.
