TheSolitaryMan
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Would you say that there's a point at which a person should just give up when it comes to hoping for a conventional relationship? Should we stick true to our ideals or compromise upon them?
I've tried for years to tell myself that I'm not just going to settle for any random girl or even give up entirely, but I'm starting to think I'm simply different from other people in some way, and that's just how it is.
Others seem comfortable with "dating", but to me I just find that concept totally weird. Asking someone to hang around with you? o_0
I don't even know where to begin with that. Additionally, I've never been able to gauge when a girl finds me attractive, unless she's being extremely overt (which usually means she's not right for me anyway).
Combine this with the fact that every female I've felt close to over the last few years only seems to have some sort of plainly sexual interest in me and I'm starting to feel a little disillusioned.
The girls I'm actually interested in (smart, caring, affectionate, long-term) are off-limits to me, because those traits also tend to make them shy or romantically reserved. That totally throws my intuition into haywire and I have no idea whether they like me in that sort of way or not.
I always thought I'd find the right girl and just "know". Experience is now telling me that I'll find a girl I like, then just be powerless to do anything until she's gone. The only girls I stand a chance with are the ones that I wouldn't feel comfortable with!
I think the simpler alternative is to simply quit while I'm ahead, in terms of emotional investment.
I've tried for years to tell myself that I'm not just going to settle for any random girl or even give up entirely, but I'm starting to think I'm simply different from other people in some way, and that's just how it is.
Others seem comfortable with "dating", but to me I just find that concept totally weird. Asking someone to hang around with you? o_0
I don't even know where to begin with that. Additionally, I've never been able to gauge when a girl finds me attractive, unless she's being extremely overt (which usually means she's not right for me anyway).
Combine this with the fact that every female I've felt close to over the last few years only seems to have some sort of plainly sexual interest in me and I'm starting to feel a little disillusioned.
The girls I'm actually interested in (smart, caring, affectionate, long-term) are off-limits to me, because those traits also tend to make them shy or romantically reserved. That totally throws my intuition into haywire and I have no idea whether they like me in that sort of way or not.
I always thought I'd find the right girl and just "know". Experience is now telling me that I'll find a girl I like, then just be powerless to do anything until she's gone. The only girls I stand a chance with are the ones that I wouldn't feel comfortable with!
I think the simpler alternative is to simply quit while I'm ahead, in terms of emotional investment.