Pike Creek
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I was up all night with worry...I'm trying to figure out what I want in a boyfriend. Three sentences:
1. I want to be loved, taken care of and treated like I'm precious.
(not financially taken care of, emotionally and lovingly of course)
2. I want my opinions and concerns to be listened to with sincerity and care and to be taken seriously with respect.
3. I want to be appreciated and valued.
And of course, I want my significant other to want all that too. We don't need lots of money, social standing, material things etc...those things don't matter at all to me. But a strong, loving and respectful connection means the world. I'm willing to give all that and more.
Is it asking too much? I mean, of course, people disagree and fight etc...nothing is perfect. But if these three things are in place, even the rough patches can be smoothed over without permanent damage. Why is that so difficult to achieve? It seems like having a secure loving relationship would be what most people want, but there is so much resistance to it, and I don't understand why.
1. I want to be loved, taken care of and treated like I'm precious.
(not financially taken care of, emotionally and lovingly of course)
2. I want my opinions and concerns to be listened to with sincerity and care and to be taken seriously with respect.
3. I want to be appreciated and valued.
And of course, I want my significant other to want all that too. We don't need lots of money, social standing, material things etc...those things don't matter at all to me. But a strong, loving and respectful connection means the world. I'm willing to give all that and more.
Is it asking too much? I mean, of course, people disagree and fight etc...nothing is perfect. But if these three things are in place, even the rough patches can be smoothed over without permanent damage. Why is that so difficult to achieve? It seems like having a secure loving relationship would be what most people want, but there is so much resistance to it, and I don't understand why.