it's 3 am and it's storming outside

[Haz]

wish I had someone to cuddle right now

or even someone I could just share that thought with. I keep thinking to myself.... all these people i've met who are offshoots of the social circles i've held over the years, they don't know me. nobody I have met in person has ever known my private desires and needs... does this make them meaningless?

I feel as if I have so much love to give, but i'm a very lonely person who has trouble connecting with others when reality comes down to it, and always find myself alone feeling misunderstood and wishing people could know the real me.

i'm told i'm handsome, I can be charming and personable, I have a professional outlook in my career and have nothing but the utmost respect for others. some girls are shocked when I tell them i've only started having sex over the last couple of years, and that i've never had a relationship. When they ask me why, I don't know how to respond.

I guess I have always had my reservations about socialising and certainly enjoy my solitude, but I can't help but feel there is something wrong with me if I still need love and physical contact this bad.

Just a few thoughts this sunday morn...

 

[Nina]

((Haz))

I think most of us need some form of contact with others. I doubt there is anything, "wrong" with you. Maybe you're desire to be close to someone is a "right" thing. Some folks wander from person to person looking for a quick fix for something else altogether. I also think you can be reserved and enjoy solitude and still be a great partner for the right person. I hope you find your right [erson soon. You sound like a really sweet person.

 

[keiramon]

wish I had someone to cuddle right now

or even someone I could just share that thought with. I keep thinking to myself.... all these people i've met who are offshoots of the social circles i've held over the years, they don't know me. nobody I have met in person has ever known my private desires and needs... does this make them meaningless?

I feel as if I have so much love to give, but i'm a very lonely person who has trouble connecting with others when reality comes down to it, and always find myself alone feeling misunderstood and wishing people could know the real me.

i'm told i'm handsome, I can be charming and personable, I have a professional outlook in my career and have nothing but the utmost respect for others. some girls are shocked when I tell them i've only started having sex over the last couple of years, and that i've never had a relationship. When they ask me why, I don't know how to respond.

I guess I have always had my reservations about socialising and certainly enjoy my solitude, but I can't help but feel there is something wrong with me if I still need love and physical contact this bad.

Just a few thoughts this sunday morn...

I too, really think you sound like a sweet person and well, I would take storming over winter right about now

They're asking you why you've just starting having sex? I mean, I'm not one to nitpick but that isn't something they should care about... at least that's something I don't care about.
I've dated (you might as well say non-existent people) about 3 times and all of them lasted less than 3 months. Almost all of them were long-distance and no, I never had sex with any of them. I don't know if I was just too arrogant or they were put off by me about something. I've always been told I was 'pretty' and even 'beautiful' but they never even gave me a second glance when they got rid of me. I might as well say I never dated at all.

I sometimes desire having a partner but other times I feel disconnected from others that I will never have a real relationship. I feel discouraged that I wouldn't be able to keep anybody for more than 3 months (it's a coincidence I know..) so there isn't a point in trying.

Well, I may have found someone else who seems to feel the same way I do, we share similar ideas, have our own solitude and he's never been in a relationship! So far the only thing again that keeps us apart is distance (when really it's just lack of transportation lol)

What I'm saying is don't give up. There are girls out there who are reasonable and don't look as past sexual/relationship experiences in a person. You sound like a great guy and deserve someone very special

 

[PurpleDays]

Cuddles are amazing. It sucks being alone.

Hug yourself?

"And if I'm a spinster the rest of my life, my arms will keep me warm on cold and lonely nights"

- Tire swing, kimya dawson


BUT! Haz is my nickname. You are -not- alone.

- Harriet x

 

[cantthinkofausername]

Cuddles are amazing. It sucks being alone.

Hug yourself?

I agree

 

[Haz]

BUT! Haz is my nickname. You are -not- alone.

- Harriet x

lol this made my day

I am a Harry, i've always been called Haz by friends and family. To think there is another in the world let alone female, impossible! Well, I just haven't met them of course. Now I have.

They're asking you why you've just starting having sex? I mean, I'm not one to nitpick but that isn't something they should care about... at least that's something I don't care about.

I've dated (you might as well say non-existent people) about 3 times and all of them lasted less than 3 months. Almost all of them were long-distance and no, I never had sex with any of them. I don't know if I was just too arrogant or they were put off by me about something. I've always been told I was 'pretty' and even 'beautiful' but they never even gave me a second glance when they got rid of me. I might as well say I never dated at all.

I sometimes desire having a partner but other times I feel disconnected from others that I will never have a real relationship. I feel discouraged that I wouldn't be able to keep anybody for more than 3 months (it's a coincidence I know..) so there isn't a point in trying.

Well, the few girls i've been into seem to be bewildered why "a guy like me" as they put it has never really gotten close with anyone. I know I have some attractive qualities, i'm romantic but not a sloppy asskisser, I have a healthy sense of humour and like to have fun but also a serious, introspective nature, I dislike drama etc., still I just never brought a girl home to my parents or found myself having casual sex until I was around 21. I'm not a sleaze, but i'm pretty open about my sexuality and have found myself much driven by lust, i'm not afraid to admit I have had a pretty skewed conception of how things work throughout much of my life as a teenager and young adult which has left me in a bit of a sexual malaise. I don't know if it just has to be with someone I feel intimacy with, or there is some deeper psychological issue at play, but I struggle to connect.

You sound a lot like me in my experiences with relationships, the last girl I was in love with long distance truly broke me. I have distanced myself from this notion since, I entered it being extremely cynical and knew what I was in for, and was proved right. We are still friends, but it hurts knowing I never got the chance to meet her and she is with someone else now I'm more or less over it, but just remembering all the times we comforted each other and she said she loved me in our late night chats via IM programs or over the phone, sometimes it really hurts to have the absence of that attention (as limited as it is).

((Haz))

I think most of us need some form of contact with others. I doubt there is anything, "wrong" with you. Maybe you're desire to be close to someone is a "right" thing. Some folks wander from person to person looking for a quick fix for something else altogether. I also think you can be reserved and enjoy solitude and still be a great partner for the right person. I hope you find your right [erson soon. You sound like a really sweet person.

It's only natural, I agree. Sometimes I wish it wasn't, though.

Thanks.

 

[keiramon]

Well, the few girls i've been into seem to be bewildered why "a guy like me" as they put it has never really gotten close with anyone. I know I have some attractive qualities, i'm romantic but not a sloppy asskisser, I have a healthy sense of humour and like to have fun but also a serious, introspective nature, I dislike drama etc., still I just never brought a girl home to my parents or found myself having casual sex until I was around 21. I'm not a sleaze, but i'm pretty open about my sexuality and have found myself much driven by lust, i'm not afraid to admit I have had a pretty skewed conception of how things work throughout much of my life as a teenager and young adult which has left me in a bit of a sexual malaise. I don't know if it just has to be with someone I feel intimacy with, or there is some deeper psychological issue at play, but I struggle to connect.

You sound a lot like me in my experiences with relationships, the last girl I was in love with long distance truly broke me. I have distanced myself from this notion since, I entered it being extremely cynical and knew what I was in for, and was proved right. We are still friends, but it hurts knowing I never got the chance to meet her and she is with someone else now Sad I'm more or less over it, but just remembering all the times we comforted each other and she said she loved me in our late night chats via IM programs or over the phone, sometimes it really hurts to have the absence of that attention (as limited as it is).

I had the same thing happen to me in the case of my last long distance that really broke me too. I did meet him in person however, like I said earlier, he never gave me a second glance after that. There was nothing I did wrong, he knew exactly how I looked and everything so despite not me having a "slim body" he was supposed to know that, he could have changed his mind anytime.

Of course, maybe it was my personality. Was I too arrogant? Blah, who the hell knows. He never did tell me why.

He said he wanted to be friends after that but didn't mean it at all. I haven't spoke to him in half a year and I found out he's marrying his other girlfriend of 3 months.

And yes, that always hurts. My first initial thought was 'who am I going to talk over IM now?' since we did it so much together. Takes some time adjusting to them never being on anymore but it gets better, I guess.

 

[PurpleDays]

I'm feeling the Harry love. My parents call me Harry, so it's always given me nice thoughts.

A few people on ALL call me Harri too. But they're just teasing (d)

Storms always make me want cuddles.

Actually. I want cuddles right now -_-

 

[SkuzzieMuff]

Cuddles are amazing. It sucks being alone.

Hug yourself?

I agree

Lololololololol. I love cuddling alone. XD

 

[Merieth]

i can really relate to this thread, i often wish i had someone to cuddle with at night, it just feels so lonely =(

sometimes i dont know what to do, what to think... but sometimes i feel that i will never find someone. sometimes i just get into this endless thought of, "maybe im not good enough for someone to like me" even though i usually dont think that, it creeps into my mind sometimes and its hard to push the thought away.

i hate the feeling of loneliness i hope we all find someone who loves and appreciates us for who we are in our near future