nerdygirl
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Two years ago, I was looking for this kid I knew back in elementary school. I'd always wondered what happened to him. I was on myspace, and I did a search for that name. I found this guy with similar coloring, whose posted age was a little younger... but I often post fake info for privacy's sake. So, I wrote him. Of course, it wasn't the boy I'd known as a child.
Somehow, we found ourselves writing back and forth a long time, discovering we had a ton in common. We became really close friends. I'd say he was my best friend. We were each the only ones the other had for consistent communication. I was the only one who read all of his blogs on myspace, and he was the only one who looked at all of my posts on flickr and deviantart.
Last year, I confessed that I had a crush on him, but told him I really didn't want a relationship because I knew that I had far too much emotional baggage. At the time, I didn't know that I had emotional disorders. I only knew that I was a little "weird".
In March, he asked me to be his girlfriend, and I decided to go for it. He was my first boyfriend in five years. My third in thirteen. Eventually, our emotional issues led to us breaking up. I still have feelings for him, but I have really missed our friendship. At the end of last month, I wrote him to see if maybe we could try to resume our friendship. We started writing back and forth again.
I struggled to keep our topics to simple things, like movies and gaming, but he kept talking about how guilty he felt for the way things went. He apologized for dragging me out of my self-imposed isolation only to abandon me once I started feeling comfortable with him. It was horrible- every time he talked about it, it just reminded me of the pain. I finally couldn't take it any more. I let him know how hard it was for me. He said that if I needed a break, he'd be okay with that, but he'd rather not.
I told him that I was sorry, but I didn't think a break would work. I said I thought it would have to be permanent. I told him that I needed for us to be together... or to be nothing, and that I knew he wasn't up for more than friendship. I said it felt wrong to leave him waiting around for me to be okay, so I was going to do the most honorable thing and leave.
A few friends said I was taking the cowardly way out, running away from my feelings. But "Running away" implies that you're escaping from somewhere you're supposed to be. When I told him I thought I should go, he didn't ask me to stay. He just said "****" and he was sorry. I said I was sorry too.
Tonight, he deleted me from his friends on myspace. I used to be in the very first slot of his top 8. I've been there since before we tried to be a couple, and realizing he'd completely removed me was horrible. I rushed over to facebook and took a picture of the screen, where my face still sits among his friends.
I always feel like I'm alone. Because of the disorder... I even feel alone when I'm being held by somebody who cares. For the past two years... I felt a little less alone just because I was connected to him. And for a few minutes, I felt like I was back to being completely alone. But because of you, I'm not. I know somebody here is going to read this.
I don't really need anybody to comment on this thread. It's enough that I can see the views on this thing and know that somebody cared enough to see what I had to say. Ultimately, I'm still alone, but at least I know there's somebody else out there I can turn to some of the time. My most sincere thanks goes to you all.
Somehow, we found ourselves writing back and forth a long time, discovering we had a ton in common. We became really close friends. I'd say he was my best friend. We were each the only ones the other had for consistent communication. I was the only one who read all of his blogs on myspace, and he was the only one who looked at all of my posts on flickr and deviantart.
Last year, I confessed that I had a crush on him, but told him I really didn't want a relationship because I knew that I had far too much emotional baggage. At the time, I didn't know that I had emotional disorders. I only knew that I was a little "weird".
In March, he asked me to be his girlfriend, and I decided to go for it. He was my first boyfriend in five years. My third in thirteen. Eventually, our emotional issues led to us breaking up. I still have feelings for him, but I have really missed our friendship. At the end of last month, I wrote him to see if maybe we could try to resume our friendship. We started writing back and forth again.
I struggled to keep our topics to simple things, like movies and gaming, but he kept talking about how guilty he felt for the way things went. He apologized for dragging me out of my self-imposed isolation only to abandon me once I started feeling comfortable with him. It was horrible- every time he talked about it, it just reminded me of the pain. I finally couldn't take it any more. I let him know how hard it was for me. He said that if I needed a break, he'd be okay with that, but he'd rather not.
I told him that I was sorry, but I didn't think a break would work. I said I thought it would have to be permanent. I told him that I needed for us to be together... or to be nothing, and that I knew he wasn't up for more than friendship. I said it felt wrong to leave him waiting around for me to be okay, so I was going to do the most honorable thing and leave.
A few friends said I was taking the cowardly way out, running away from my feelings. But "Running away" implies that you're escaping from somewhere you're supposed to be. When I told him I thought I should go, he didn't ask me to stay. He just said "****" and he was sorry. I said I was sorry too.
Tonight, he deleted me from his friends on myspace. I used to be in the very first slot of his top 8. I've been there since before we tried to be a couple, and realizing he'd completely removed me was horrible. I rushed over to facebook and took a picture of the screen, where my face still sits among his friends.
I always feel like I'm alone. Because of the disorder... I even feel alone when I'm being held by somebody who cares. For the past two years... I felt a little less alone just because I was connected to him. And for a few minutes, I felt like I was back to being completely alone. But because of you, I'm not. I know somebody here is going to read this.
I don't really need anybody to comment on this thread. It's enough that I can see the views on this thing and know that somebody cared enough to see what I had to say. Ultimately, I'm still alone, but at least I know there's somebody else out there I can turn to some of the time. My most sincere thanks goes to you all.