danieljackson
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About 5 months ago the first and only person I ever loved broke up with me. She was my first girlfriend, and the first person with whom I experienced sexual intimacy. I still think about her every day. I try to remember how awful she was, as an effort to make me miss her less. She was manipulative, emotionally abusive, and occasionally physically abusive. I could go into specifics, but I won't. The truth is, in spite of her BS, I've never been happier in my life than when I was with her. The hardest part is that, to the best of my knowledge, she's the only person who's ever shared a mutual attraction with me. So I feel as if I have a snowball's chance in hell of ever being in another relationship.
As an effort to meet new people I signed up for an online dating website. Only one girl out of the 20 I messaged replied. This girl seemed pretty cool, and we messaged each other back and forth for a couple of weeks. Then one day, to my surprise, she had asked if I wanted to hang out. I was very pleased by this, nobody had ever asked me out before! So I sent her a message trying to work out the arrangement, and I didn't hear back from her for a few days. I logged on the site and she had deleted her profile. Had she merely lost her nerve? Was she just leading me on? I'll never know. What this experience has done, is reaffirm the fact that I'm unattractive, uninteresting, and socially inept.
So, my question to the people on this forum. How does someone move on without the ability to find someone new? How can I be OK with being single when I really don't have any friends?
As an effort to meet new people I signed up for an online dating website. Only one girl out of the 20 I messaged replied. This girl seemed pretty cool, and we messaged each other back and forth for a couple of weeks. Then one day, to my surprise, she had asked if I wanted to hang out. I was very pleased by this, nobody had ever asked me out before! So I sent her a message trying to work out the arrangement, and I didn't hear back from her for a few days. I logged on the site and she had deleted her profile. Had she merely lost her nerve? Was she just leading me on? I'll never know. What this experience has done, is reaffirm the fact that I'm unattractive, uninteresting, and socially inept.
So, my question to the people on this forum. How does someone move on without the ability to find someone new? How can I be OK with being single when I really don't have any friends?