Loneliness is self-inflicted pain.

[dan27]

After years of disappointments from family, friends, lovers, co-workers, employers, etc.....
It is easy to hide in one's shell for protection.
In the long run we have to reach out & strive again lest I become a miserable hermit mired in regrets.

 

[Colster]

I'm at a point in life (48), whereby maybe 90% of the time, I am happiest isolating from folks. It's only for the fact that I accept this is not healthy, the I engage as much as I do. Sure, sometimes I do crave interaction, quality conversation. But, for the time being, I am kind of done with people.

 

[SecondStarTotheRight]

I agree. I go in bouts. I tend to hide the depth of my loneliness from people. Some I know would scoff I'm on a site like this. Call me a hypocrite. I champion being a loner. They just don't get that it can be lonely too. Hard to argue with your last sentence there.

 

[Sarah G]

Which is stronger, the fear of getting hurt or the fear of ending up alone?
I find beauty in solitude.

 

[dan27]

I need the energy of friends around me, to feel valued & make my reality more enjoyable .
Fulfilment of desires motivates me to keep improving myself & help others too.
Trusting others is tough, it's always a risk.

 

[ewomack]

A good book can outdo 90% of social gatherings, especially if people are being competitive, talking about money or possessions or talking down the people who aren't present. A book is a better companion than such gatherings.

But a good gathering where people show mutual respect, don't judge, accept your ups and downs and try to find common purpose and meaning together - nothing can top that.

 

[Finished]

Not all of us need to reach out and strive for anything. I'm a hermit with regrets of reaching out in the past. I wasted so much time dealing with other people and their problems.

 

[dan27]

Not all of us need to reach out and strive for anything. I'm a hermit with regrets of reaching out in the past. I wasted so much time dealing with other people and their problems.

Well ya got what you wanted...

 

[dan27]

Which is stronger, the fear of getting hurt or the fear of ending up alone?
I find beauty in solitude.

permanent solitude is not healthy.

 

[verticalray]

Which is stronger, the fear of getting hurt or the fear of ending up alone?

Your presence here seems like the answer to your question

 

[dan27]

The emotional pains are what I despise.
You hurt me..I hurt you back.

 

[Sarah G]

Your presence here seems like the answer to your question

What do you mean?