Lonely woman

[serenity107]

I'm 32 and not sociable at all. It's one thing to be shy & quiet but I'm at a point where I don't really know how to talk to my family. When I do, it seems like the problems I describe is stupid and immature. I became a single mother after going through a divorce in 2009 and I've somehow gotten into a rut that makes me feel like a loser. I should have stayed married because he was the life of our family but at the same time I was feeling this way even then. I've joined this site hoping that it could somehow be a therapuetic way for me to learn how to open up and talk. I had an appointment to speak with a mental health specialist on this past Wednesday but cancelled it because I'm afraid that what I'm describing is crazy and doesn't make sense to anyone. Even this post seems like a riddle of rambled words. Because I don't feel like I can talk I choose to be quiet to keep from sounding vague & stupid. Please offer any advice or encouragement, if you can somewhat comprehend what it is I'm trying to convey.

 

[Caja]

You will go through the 'rambled words' situation, and also wishing yourself back, but it will pass, I am gone six years of this now. Don't ever wish yourself back, time is a massive healer. x

 

[I'm Fine]

It's not crazy to be lonely or to wonder if you've done the right thing after making such a dramatic change to your life. What you've said makes sense although you haven't said WHY you got divorced or when you first started to feel like this (both of which are, quite frankly, none of my business and I apologise for being too personal).

If you feel that you need practice talking to people, here is a good place to do exactly that. Join in on the posts, PM people that interest you or join in the chat - whichever and whatever feels most comfortable to you (not that it's my place to tell you to do so). I hope it helps.

Take care.

 

[A new life]

Thank God for lonely women.
Perhaps someday I'll meet one who won't say (pick one):
"I'm not looking for a boyfriend"
"It's complicated"
"I just got out of a bad relationship............."
"Can't we just be friends?"
"You're such a nice man"
"I wish I had met you when............"
"I don't date people I work with"
"I need some time to just be me (all the while eyeing some other guy over my shoulder)"
"I don't have time for a man in my life right now"

 

[someguy23475]

I've never been a fan of seeking "professional" help, mainly because I've always felt I'm merely paying someone to listen to me when I can go online and do the same for free (minus electricity).


I've always been better communicating online than in person... don't know why. It's hurt in relationships too.

 

[lone_drow]

Hi Serenity,

Your post makes perfect sense. You can write well.
Many of us don't give ourselves enough credit at times. There is always that inner critic of ours making us feel bad and lose hope.

Like what I'm Fine said, you're going through a dramatic change in your life. There's going to be a lot of mixed feelings and uncertainty.
If you feel reluctant to speak to the mental health specialist, may i suggest you try calling The Samaritans or Befrienders? I don't know where you live, so perhaps you could google it up?