marques34 said:
What's stopping me is my weight. I am overweight and I am just working on slimming down, not only because my doctor says so, but to also look more attractive.
It's fantastic that you're putting in steps to lose weight, great for your health, great for your self-esteem. However, you can always meet people regardless of weight, and you can always find someone special regardless of how under or overweight you are.
And remember that having a girlfriend isn't everything, I'm currently single after a stream of relationships and it's always a case of "The Grass always looks greener on the other side".
When you're single, you want that companionship, the romance, that significant other to hold, kiss, experience life with. When you're in a relationship you miss all the free time you used to have, being able to do whatever you want; whenever you want (like hanging out with friends whenever you feel like it for example), your money is all yours to spend on what YOU want. You are completely independent, you can pursue whatever you want in life without needing to consult anyone because you need to build a life together.
This is the first time being single where I've appreciated what being on my own means. In the past, I've always pined for a relationship, thought that being in a relationship was the right thing to do and it was THE goal. It's not until now where I've been single and realised "****, I could have been enjoying myself SO MUCH MORE being single in the past. I wasted so much time being lonely and wishing I was in a relationship instead of enjoying all the benefits of being single"... Because there are DEFINITELY perks to being Single.
Focus on your goal of losing weight, ask yourself if you're 110% ready for a relationship right now and if the answer is no, then work towards accepting yourself and being happy with yourself. If you're not happy with yourself, how can you expect someone else to be happy with you?
You can do it man, you've put steps in place to achieving your goals. Put in the hard work, and you'll be rewarded.