rollingthunder
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I figure I'm in a situation similar to many people on here, but I feel the need to post just as a means of explaining it anyway.
Basically I'm 24 years old, I still live at home at the moment and I feel like my life is in a bit of a rut. I don't actually have any 'friends' to speak of, I guess I just have a lot of acquaintances, so a few of the people I work with will invite me out every now and again, and there are people from a hobby store (card/board/RPG games) I used to go to who will invite me out also if it's a birthday or something is going on etc. So I will usually go out once every month/couple of months but other than that, I have no social life. These acquaintances never actually speak to me that often either, like, I don't have anyone texting me or messaging me just wanting to chat or wanting to meet up for a drink down the pub or something and just wanting to spend time with me. I feel like if I were to disappear off the face of the earth no one would notice apart from my close family.
I get up, go to work, come home, go to bed and do the same again, on the weekends I just end up sleeping in a lot later, usually into the afternoon but then I don't end up going out anywhere.
I do put a lot of that down to myself, in that since 2009 I have suffered from OCD, which in turn split off into social anxiety as well. I don't like going out on my own, in that I have very low self-confidence and self-worth. When it comes to speaking to people I don't know, I'm not very confident either. I figure if we have something in common, such as a band we both enjoy or a film/TV show then for a time we will be ok, but other than those things, I don't really know what to speak about or what to say. I do want to make new friends and find people I have stuff in common to go out with during the evenings/weekends but I just feel like any attempts I make end up going nowhere, as everyone already has their group of friends set up and not many want to invite or let in new people, especially as socially inept as myself.
As you can imagine, my love life is going nowhere either. I've never actually had what you would call a 'proper' girlfriend, I had girlfriends in high school but since then nothing. I do want a relationship, and I have tried online dating which wasn't successful but I feel like I don't know how to do the whole dating/flirting thing either.
I could probably write pages of stuff about this but I'll stop here. The situation basically is I want friends with common interests and people who actually want to speak to me and go out during the weekends and I want a proper relationship and I have tried to get these things but always fail, and my lack of social skills and self-confidence isn't helping matters at all. I don't really know where to go from here to be honest.
Basically I'm 24 years old, I still live at home at the moment and I feel like my life is in a bit of a rut. I don't actually have any 'friends' to speak of, I guess I just have a lot of acquaintances, so a few of the people I work with will invite me out every now and again, and there are people from a hobby store (card/board/RPG games) I used to go to who will invite me out also if it's a birthday or something is going on etc. So I will usually go out once every month/couple of months but other than that, I have no social life. These acquaintances never actually speak to me that often either, like, I don't have anyone texting me or messaging me just wanting to chat or wanting to meet up for a drink down the pub or something and just wanting to spend time with me. I feel like if I were to disappear off the face of the earth no one would notice apart from my close family.
I get up, go to work, come home, go to bed and do the same again, on the weekends I just end up sleeping in a lot later, usually into the afternoon but then I don't end up going out anywhere.
I do put a lot of that down to myself, in that since 2009 I have suffered from OCD, which in turn split off into social anxiety as well. I don't like going out on my own, in that I have very low self-confidence and self-worth. When it comes to speaking to people I don't know, I'm not very confident either. I figure if we have something in common, such as a band we both enjoy or a film/TV show then for a time we will be ok, but other than those things, I don't really know what to speak about or what to say. I do want to make new friends and find people I have stuff in common to go out with during the evenings/weekends but I just feel like any attempts I make end up going nowhere, as everyone already has their group of friends set up and not many want to invite or let in new people, especially as socially inept as myself.
As you can imagine, my love life is going nowhere either. I've never actually had what you would call a 'proper' girlfriend, I had girlfriends in high school but since then nothing. I do want a relationship, and I have tried online dating which wasn't successful but I feel like I don't know how to do the whole dating/flirting thing either.
I could probably write pages of stuff about this but I'll stop here. The situation basically is I want friends with common interests and people who actually want to speak to me and go out during the weekends and I want a proper relationship and I have tried to get these things but always fail, and my lack of social skills and self-confidence isn't helping matters at all. I don't really know where to go from here to be honest.