Icy_fighter
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I can almost NEVER look at someones eyes without feeling like a goofball. Whenever someone is looking at my eyes and we make eye contact, all of a sudden I cant hold onto the eye contact because my eyes and face feel all distorted which forces me to break away and look somewhere else.
It’s the vulnerability that gets to me. I don’t really know how my face looks or if my face is really making an unconscious reaction to something/someone when I make eye contact. Some reactions I’m just not comfortable with sharing with strangers. I also don’t wish for anyone I make eye contact with me to feel that I am encroaching upon them or trying to be creepy. That, and I feel like sometimes I am inviting unwanted conversation when I make eye contact. I am not yet comfortable with striking up conversation with just anyone, due to total fear of my lack of speech abilities and insecurity of how my eyes and face looks.
Due to these above fears and insecurities, I’ve made this a habit with family and friends, too, even though I enjoy conversations with them. I want to learn to open up and enjoy eye contact. I want to convey confidence and warmth with my eyes. I know I have a really cool person in myself, but I never get the opportunity let my true self come out because of my stupid problem and it is really affecting my social life.
So what I really want to know, is what can I do about this? I want to make friends. What can I do to help myself make eye contact without looking like a freak so that the other person may feel comfortable and can get to know each other? Is there any techniques I can use to help myself ease into comfortable eye contact? Please help me.
It’s the vulnerability that gets to me. I don’t really know how my face looks or if my face is really making an unconscious reaction to something/someone when I make eye contact. Some reactions I’m just not comfortable with sharing with strangers. I also don’t wish for anyone I make eye contact with me to feel that I am encroaching upon them or trying to be creepy. That, and I feel like sometimes I am inviting unwanted conversation when I make eye contact. I am not yet comfortable with striking up conversation with just anyone, due to total fear of my lack of speech abilities and insecurity of how my eyes and face looks.
Due to these above fears and insecurities, I’ve made this a habit with family and friends, too, even though I enjoy conversations with them. I want to learn to open up and enjoy eye contact. I want to convey confidence and warmth with my eyes. I know I have a really cool person in myself, but I never get the opportunity let my true self come out because of my stupid problem and it is really affecting my social life.
So what I really want to know, is what can I do about this? I want to make friends. What can I do to help myself make eye contact without looking like a freak so that the other person may feel comfortable and can get to know each other? Is there any techniques I can use to help myself ease into comfortable eye contact? Please help me.