mountains8
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I am a 30 year old male from Toronto Canada. I am writing this to get some advice. Firstly, let me say that I am just looking for some common ground I guess. I am including details in here that I think might be part of my problems but try not to focus on a single one of them, but just look at the whle package. Firstly, I was identified as a gifted level iq when I was about 10 I guess. They put me in a special class and I hated it, i jhust wanted to be normal like other students. So i kept crying until they took me out of it. Around 8-10 I guess, I am not sure, I had a oral penis sucking relationship with another boy that lasted a few times because it was "fun", or "naughty" idk why ithappened I don't consider myself gay but have had issues with why I engaged in this as a child...there was also this game that the friend inveneted or he got it from some other boy where you would play strip tease games, lol I dk it was all very foggy...we would wait until no one was around and suck eachother dicks, but not kiss eachother or something like that. I am not denying that it felt cool, it was like I wanted something to happen after but we would just go and piss in the toilet( but this was before I ever had an orgasm, so obviously i was fairly young) one morning I had an orgasm when i hit puberty and I was like, "hey, so that was that feeling I was waiting for" this was around 13 and I discovered masturbation, I watched my first soft porno movie (NOT GAY PORN lol) and I used to beat off to tlc waterfalls video, pink power ranger ok, so for the gay lurkers out there, no I am not gay, so I don't want replies saying that Im closeted or something...gays are cool with me, but I am not here for that advice. I dont get crushes or have relationships on guys once I hit puberty...I am just mentioning this because it makes me feel like I should. I also tried to do the same thing with a girl at this age, but she wouldn't let me and would cry and stuff. Also, after this happned a few times with the boy, I got this bad infection on my mouth where I had to have antibiotics. My parents only let me hang out with a small nmber of children even till i was about 15. THis was all when i was like 8 or something though, it's hard for me to think about the details. Growing up before this though, I always had crushes on girls, and like standing in line for recess I remember liking this one girl, not boys. Any way, one day the oral boy got a gf and moved away and i never heard from him again.. I have had issues with social anxiety since about age 14. Then severe fear of women ever since my first gf dumped me when I was 14. I had a long-term gf from age 17-21. She had serious anxiety, panic attacks and she was on drugs for it that made her not travel places. She also was not very sexual because of the medicaiton but we still did have sex for the first couple years but then it turned boring with her because she wouldn't get lubricated and I think this may have psychologically messed me up. I got addicted to internet porn and also was addicted to cocaine for a bit around 21, this was when I broke up with her, then she freaked out, bt then I hit rock bottom and tried to get back m, but then she woudln't get back with me. IThis really messed me up emotionally as I had to try and get off the drugs and I did, but then I got so incerdibly depressed. My dick started growing when I would see guys (not like getting a sexual aroused just like it would move without a sex feeling), i don't know how to explain it, but not in a sexual way like getting boner...i don't fantasize about men, I don't beat off to gay porn or men, ar have dreams about that. BUt then I got this incredible phobia that I was gay, jewish or ugly. Lol, I know this is weird but I used to hang out with drug dealers and it was messed up, and one day when i was messed, the drug dealer iplanted a mind control or something where I got a phobia of these three things. I had never felt like I was any of these things before...maybe ugly a couple times but not the gay or jewish thing. I don't know how much this had to do with the drugs or some trauma Idk. I've had sex only less than 20 times since then and I havent had a long term gf since then either. I eventually lost my friends from highschool by age 25. I fiishesd university only when I was 29. I have about $50k student debts from over spending while I wasnt working for 6 years from age 23 to 29. I moved out of my parents when I was 26 and have lived away from them since then. But I have never really had to work for anything, my parents gave me everything, and my dad was a control freak early on but then when I was about 19-21 I just kept getting messed up all the time. Then now I have problems binge drinking. I feel like I am always having to be "on something" and when I am not, and I go clean, it feels fine but ultiatemly I get depressed, like everything looks grey and shitty. Everything's fake. I have no friends right now. I am unemployed again, I keep getting honeysuckle jobs theat pay honeysuckle, even though i have a business degree. I dont even pay for my rent. I live in a kickass condo right downtown in the City but I have no friends at all. I only seem to hang out with my parents which is fine but it is really lonley for me to think that my only friends are my parents. I seriously don't know if these are all related issues. But I do have a fear of commitment. I also feel like I need to get away from my family since they have always engulfed me basically, my parents.