Hi everyone!
I apologise in advance, I'm a bit drunk so my spelling and grammar may be awful. But, let's be realistic, it was the only way I was going to post on this site.
Where shall I start - I'm James, I'm 22 (going on 23) and I'm from South England. I'm 5' 11" and 16 stone, so a little on the fat side (but working on it!). I work full time and I earn an above average salary, which is a good thing. Apart from that I'm relatively healthy but I also have tinnitus. If you saw me in the street I look like a pretty normal guy.
However, the reason I'm writing this is because I need your help.
I've always suffered from low self-esteem, dismally low in fact. This has led me to a life where I still live with my parents as a single man, have no hobbies / interests whatsoever and live a daily routine of travelling to and from work and brainlessly living life at home. I have a few friends who I love and adore, but I don't have the chance to see them often. To fill the gaps I have other 'friends' who belittle me constantly and to be honest I don't enjoy their company. But hey, it's still better than being alone.
Part of me wonders why I have low self esteem. I could blame it on the lack of relationship with my parents, or because I was consistently bullied throughout my school years. Part of me says that I shouldn't care though, I cannot change my past. I'd rather concentrate on the now,
To describe my low self esteem I find that this picture of Homer Simpson describes it best:
I live with an inner devil who constantly puts me down, who holds me back. This devil does not allow me to have close relationships as I'm terrified of people getting to know the real me. This devil also also holds me back from my life ambitions as I'm terrified of the failure. I find this mood status debilitating, as in I'm 'stuck in a rut'.
I want to change this.
I'm bored of living a half life, I'm sick and tired of thinking that I'll never have the life of my wonderful friends because they're so much better than me. I'm even worried that I'm holding them back and that I don't deserve their company, even though deep down I know that this is ridiculous!!!
I want to be able to take part in new things that do not fear me and I want to have the courage to open up to my two closest friends (one male, one female) about the problems that I have/ I want to have the confidence to have a relationship with somebody without being scared of what they think of me. In other words, I want to have a life and not the half life I have now!
I suppose the reason why I'm writing this is that I don't know where to start. To those who turned their lives around, where did you begin? How would you approach my self esteem issue? How have you managed to turn your lives around? I've considered seeing a professional psychologist but due to their prices I've put it off for now. I've felt like this for as long as I remember.
Thanks for taking the time to read this, I look forward to hearing from you. I'll update you all as life goes on. For now, It's 1am, I'm tired and I need to sleep.
James.
I apologise in advance, I'm a bit drunk so my spelling and grammar may be awful. But, let's be realistic, it was the only way I was going to post on this site.
Where shall I start - I'm James, I'm 22 (going on 23) and I'm from South England. I'm 5' 11" and 16 stone, so a little on the fat side (but working on it!). I work full time and I earn an above average salary, which is a good thing. Apart from that I'm relatively healthy but I also have tinnitus. If you saw me in the street I look like a pretty normal guy.
However, the reason I'm writing this is because I need your help.
I've always suffered from low self-esteem, dismally low in fact. This has led me to a life where I still live with my parents as a single man, have no hobbies / interests whatsoever and live a daily routine of travelling to and from work and brainlessly living life at home. I have a few friends who I love and adore, but I don't have the chance to see them often. To fill the gaps I have other 'friends' who belittle me constantly and to be honest I don't enjoy their company. But hey, it's still better than being alone.
Part of me wonders why I have low self esteem. I could blame it on the lack of relationship with my parents, or because I was consistently bullied throughout my school years. Part of me says that I shouldn't care though, I cannot change my past. I'd rather concentrate on the now,
To describe my low self esteem I find that this picture of Homer Simpson describes it best:
I live with an inner devil who constantly puts me down, who holds me back. This devil does not allow me to have close relationships as I'm terrified of people getting to know the real me. This devil also also holds me back from my life ambitions as I'm terrified of the failure. I find this mood status debilitating, as in I'm 'stuck in a rut'.
I want to change this.
I'm bored of living a half life, I'm sick and tired of thinking that I'll never have the life of my wonderful friends because they're so much better than me. I'm even worried that I'm holding them back and that I don't deserve their company, even though deep down I know that this is ridiculous!!!
I want to be able to take part in new things that do not fear me and I want to have the courage to open up to my two closest friends (one male, one female) about the problems that I have/ I want to have the confidence to have a relationship with somebody without being scared of what they think of me. In other words, I want to have a life and not the half life I have now!
I suppose the reason why I'm writing this is that I don't know where to start. To those who turned their lives around, where did you begin? How would you approach my self esteem issue? How have you managed to turn your lives around? I've considered seeing a professional psychologist but due to their prices I've put it off for now. I've felt like this for as long as I remember.
Thanks for taking the time to read this, I look forward to hearing from you. I'll update you all as life goes on. For now, It's 1am, I'm tired and I need to sleep.
James.