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elissa
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The hardest thing about loneliness for me is that it is such a distraction. It makes me unmotivated because it is always there, hanging over me like a black cloud, preventing me from doing all the things I should be doing and instead I find myself seeking comfort and distraction from the loneliness by surfing the internet. So much time wasted on sites like myspace and youtube just so that I can get my social fix for the day and feel less alone. I have so many big goals for myself... and no motivation to do any of it.
Another hard thing I have to deal with is that I live in a tiny studio apt in a large city, so whenever I get the urge to go for a run/walk to help clear my mind and get me out of the apt, I always fear I'm gonna burst out crying in public so I wind up staying home instead still with tons of energy to release.
I have good self esteem and know that I am a cool person.. I have many friends and aquaintances, just no community or close friends to lean my head on at the end of the day... I had a good friend who was also a boyfriend, but he was just such a jerk to me and we brought out the worst in each other and finally called it quits recently. I almost asked him for his friendship back the other day, which was stupid and set me up for rejection, but at the time I was more concerned with having SOMEONE in my life. Noone should have to be so desperate that they will significantly lower their standards just to have someone to lean on..
I know I could do so much better than this! I know what it's like to feel part of a community, and I know what it's like to have really good, close, genuine friendships that you can depend on..It sucks to know what my life could be like while living a very different one. And it sucks to see everyone around you prancing around with their best friends when you know you deserve the same.
As long as I walk around feeling this way, I don't want to be in a relationship. I just want girlfriends! All my friends are guys! Which is cool and all, but boy when your guy friends get girlfriends, they all of a sudden dissapear... and girls are better to talk to when you're going through tough times. I don't want my guy friends to see me a mess.
That's my rant! Boy that felt good to put into writing. Hopefully it entertained someone out there, and if not then I still thank A Lonely Life for giving me the opportunity to vent to the world.
Another hard thing I have to deal with is that I live in a tiny studio apt in a large city, so whenever I get the urge to go for a run/walk to help clear my mind and get me out of the apt, I always fear I'm gonna burst out crying in public so I wind up staying home instead still with tons of energy to release.
I have good self esteem and know that I am a cool person.. I have many friends and aquaintances, just no community or close friends to lean my head on at the end of the day... I had a good friend who was also a boyfriend, but he was just such a jerk to me and we brought out the worst in each other and finally called it quits recently. I almost asked him for his friendship back the other day, which was stupid and set me up for rejection, but at the time I was more concerned with having SOMEONE in my life. Noone should have to be so desperate that they will significantly lower their standards just to have someone to lean on..
I know I could do so much better than this! I know what it's like to feel part of a community, and I know what it's like to have really good, close, genuine friendships that you can depend on..It sucks to know what my life could be like while living a very different one. And it sucks to see everyone around you prancing around with their best friends when you know you deserve the same.
As long as I walk around feeling this way, I don't want to be in a relationship. I just want girlfriends! All my friends are guys! Which is cool and all, but boy when your guy friends get girlfriends, they all of a sudden dissapear... and girls are better to talk to when you're going through tough times. I don't want my guy friends to see me a mess.
That's my rant! Boy that felt good to put into writing. Hopefully it entertained someone out there, and if not then I still thank A Lonely Life for giving me the opportunity to vent to the world.