Sally's Song
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This is going to be a mess of emotions, just a warning ahead of time.
So, yes, I met a new guy. He's great and from what people say *and from what I've experienced lately* we mesh amazingly well. He fills a void in my life in a new and unique way, so for that alone I am blessed. Here's the BUT (as he texts me... ugh makes me feel bad...). BUT, the thing is: I'm still in love with someone else. And he hasn't asked, and I definitely will never bring it up, because if I were honest it might break his heart. And it definitely would end whatever we have going for us.
I know, from experience. I was hanging out with another guy before I met *New Guy* and explained where I was with my feelings for *First Love* and I made him cry! Not tears of envy or tears of rejection, but he FELT the truth of what I was saying and had never felt so deeply for any person in his life. I found it to be extremely alienating knowing that nobody has been able to relate to the type of love I'm capable of feeling, as of yet. That was the last time I saw him or talked to him, not for lack of his effort, but because it just made me sick that I could try to be with another person when my heart is still full for *F.L.*.
It's always been my fault when things between me and *F.L.* end. It always ends with me being weak and bringing up my feelings. He never says he doesn't feel the same, he just fades out of my life. That's what has hurt me the worst, and I've been through experiences that would break other women. (Encounters with men that I won't tell, because it will leave you feeling horrified).
It's just the cold, indifferent silence that makes me feel like a hole is being ripped out of my chest. And for once, I met this *New Guy* who is replacing that feeling with warmth, caring, understanding, the list goes on and on. The thing I'm most worried about is, after *N.G.* has filled up the voids in my heart left behind by past experiences, I know my heart will never belong to him. I'm not being stubborn, believe me. I've just tried time and time again. I've been engaged TWICE, and broke it off each time with the explanation that I was in love with *F.L.*. The first time, I hadn't even spoken to *F.L.* in two years. The feelings are just always there.
Ugh... I have to find a way to forget him. Because it really seems like he'll never be ready to do the one thing I need most... just be present in my life. And there's a man who's ready willing and able to do it, and for once, a guy actually deserves my heart. It just isn't mine to give anymore.
I'm gonna respond to that txt I just got from *New Guy*. Sorry for the venting session
So, yes, I met a new guy. He's great and from what people say *and from what I've experienced lately* we mesh amazingly well. He fills a void in my life in a new and unique way, so for that alone I am blessed. Here's the BUT (as he texts me... ugh makes me feel bad...). BUT, the thing is: I'm still in love with someone else. And he hasn't asked, and I definitely will never bring it up, because if I were honest it might break his heart. And it definitely would end whatever we have going for us.
I know, from experience. I was hanging out with another guy before I met *New Guy* and explained where I was with my feelings for *First Love* and I made him cry! Not tears of envy or tears of rejection, but he FELT the truth of what I was saying and had never felt so deeply for any person in his life. I found it to be extremely alienating knowing that nobody has been able to relate to the type of love I'm capable of feeling, as of yet. That was the last time I saw him or talked to him, not for lack of his effort, but because it just made me sick that I could try to be with another person when my heart is still full for *F.L.*.
It's always been my fault when things between me and *F.L.* end. It always ends with me being weak and bringing up my feelings. He never says he doesn't feel the same, he just fades out of my life. That's what has hurt me the worst, and I've been through experiences that would break other women. (Encounters with men that I won't tell, because it will leave you feeling horrified).
It's just the cold, indifferent silence that makes me feel like a hole is being ripped out of my chest. And for once, I met this *New Guy* who is replacing that feeling with warmth, caring, understanding, the list goes on and on. The thing I'm most worried about is, after *N.G.* has filled up the voids in my heart left behind by past experiences, I know my heart will never belong to him. I'm not being stubborn, believe me. I've just tried time and time again. I've been engaged TWICE, and broke it off each time with the explanation that I was in love with *F.L.*. The first time, I hadn't even spoken to *F.L.* in two years. The feelings are just always there.
Ugh... I have to find a way to forget him. Because it really seems like he'll never be ready to do the one thing I need most... just be present in my life. And there's a man who's ready willing and able to do it, and for once, a guy actually deserves my heart. It just isn't mine to give anymore.
I'm gonna respond to that txt I just got from *New Guy*. Sorry for the venting session