Hi guys,
This is my first post. I am a 22 year old guy and just starting grad school. To be honest, I have always been good at making friends, with guys and girls. I have a good sense of humor, and can strike up a conversation. But I have never had a girlfriend!
I am decent looking, maybe a 7.5 (would be an 8 if i could get rid of this $%#%^ acne already!)
I am worried that at 22 it is getting a little weird if a girl asks and I have to say I've never been in a relationship. I worry that she will think I have some sort of problem.
To be honest, until I was about 19 I didnt really want a girlfriend. A lot of girls that I was "friends" with in highschool were ditzy and not interesting. Then in college, I thought I was a player and didnt need a girlfriend, but that was stupid because even if I would make out with a girl at a party it would never become anything meaningful. At age 22, I have had sex only 12 times ever, and never more than 3 times with the same girl. I think my lack of experience makes me not a great lover, too.
My senior year (about 6 months ago), I met a girl at a bar and hooked up with her that night (just kissing on a staircase for 10 minutes). It sounds the same as any random girl but something clicked and I was really into her like no one else before. She was out of my league, probably a 9. I took her on a date 3 days after that first night, just for lunch, and it went OK, but I was really nervous, and had a big pimple on my cheek (I'm 22, enough with the pimples, please!) and so next weekend both nights I invited her and her roommates to come party with my roommates but both nights she made excuses, and I think I definitely came on too strong and creeped her out. Then, to make matters worse, I made this ridiculously long facebook message about how we were graduating soon and i really liked her bla bla bla... and completely creeped her out. I'm an idiot. But I had honestly never done that before, usually I don't really get excited like that about girls. But it was just depressing because apparently whenever I actually like a girl, I get way too excited and overthink everything and come off seeming desperate.
Any advice on how to start a mature, healthy relationship in your early 20's? at this point I really want to start one, I think its an important part of life that I simply haven't participated in. I've never been in love at age 22 and it makes me sad. I feel like I seem shallow to other people, but I'm not, I am really passionate but I just have a hard time sharing it with other people.
This is my first post. I am a 22 year old guy and just starting grad school. To be honest, I have always been good at making friends, with guys and girls. I have a good sense of humor, and can strike up a conversation. But I have never had a girlfriend!
I am decent looking, maybe a 7.5 (would be an 8 if i could get rid of this $%#%^ acne already!)
I am worried that at 22 it is getting a little weird if a girl asks and I have to say I've never been in a relationship. I worry that she will think I have some sort of problem.
To be honest, until I was about 19 I didnt really want a girlfriend. A lot of girls that I was "friends" with in highschool were ditzy and not interesting. Then in college, I thought I was a player and didnt need a girlfriend, but that was stupid because even if I would make out with a girl at a party it would never become anything meaningful. At age 22, I have had sex only 12 times ever, and never more than 3 times with the same girl. I think my lack of experience makes me not a great lover, too.
My senior year (about 6 months ago), I met a girl at a bar and hooked up with her that night (just kissing on a staircase for 10 minutes). It sounds the same as any random girl but something clicked and I was really into her like no one else before. She was out of my league, probably a 9. I took her on a date 3 days after that first night, just for lunch, and it went OK, but I was really nervous, and had a big pimple on my cheek (I'm 22, enough with the pimples, please!) and so next weekend both nights I invited her and her roommates to come party with my roommates but both nights she made excuses, and I think I definitely came on too strong and creeped her out. Then, to make matters worse, I made this ridiculously long facebook message about how we were graduating soon and i really liked her bla bla bla... and completely creeped her out. I'm an idiot. But I had honestly never done that before, usually I don't really get excited like that about girls. But it was just depressing because apparently whenever I actually like a girl, I get way too excited and overthink everything and come off seeming desperate.
Any advice on how to start a mature, healthy relationship in your early 20's? at this point I really want to start one, I think its an important part of life that I simply haven't participated in. I've never been in love at age 22 and it makes me sad. I feel like I seem shallow to other people, but I'm not, I am really passionate but I just have a hard time sharing it with other people.