No more of this bullshit

[hollowpoints]

Hey,
Long story short,
I'm just an almost 18 year old boy with low self-esteem, problems with confidence, missing almost every chance to meet and have fun with pretty girls, I don't really have friends, never had a girlfriend. I'm short and really **** skinny. I am kinda tired everyday when everything seems to be the same, monotonous and boring. My dream lifestyle has been of course a playboy lifestyle, rapping... such like Pitbull's. They say I have a nice low manly voice but I would need to practise a lot, and I'm really scared of doing it where the people are (weak confidence). Other people of course bring me down saying I will never get to live like him. I live in a small hopeless town and there's nothing much to do.
I've got enough of jerking off and porn, I'm debating as if I should pay a girl and have some fun, take her on coffee and let her introduce me and boost my self-confidence up? But I don't really have money though. I need to get a vacation job.
I'm also really tired of my appearance and my behaviour that's why I decided to finally change it all. I just came back first time from the gym. I can barely lift anything there, but I hope I will get strong and muscular xD. And when I came out I just missed another chance - there were sitting two pretty girls near and I didn't talk to them.
I noticed it's way easier for me in big cities where no one knows me.
Also I need to become more grown up with my behaviour (gestures, sitting position, etc. especially around women) and cut off all the bullshit.
Okay, I'm done by now, because it had to be a long story short, and it's getting kinda long. have a nice day!

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

Welcome

 

[Drama]

Hey, welcome.

 

[Nicolelt]

Welcome to the site!

And I want to add, you are 18 years-old. You have plenty of time to find a girl. You will have so many opportunities at jobs, or school, or whatever to meet people. Don't give up yet.

 

[thelonegamer]

Welcome to the site!

And I want to add, you are 18 years-old. You have plenty of time to find a girl. You will have so many opportunities at jobs, or school, or whatever to meet people. Don't give up yet.

^ this. Welcome aboard. Pm me anytime

 

[ladyforsaken]

Hey hollowpoints, welcome to the forum!

 

[TheRealCallie]

Welcome to ALL.

 

[Alana]

Welcome!

 

[TheSkaFish]

Hey,
Long story short,
I'm just an almost 18 year old boy with low self-esteem, problems with confidence, missing almost every chance to meet and have fun with pretty girls, I don't really have friends, never had a girlfriend. I'm short and really **** skinny. I am kinda tired everyday when everything seems to be the same, monotonous and boring. My dream lifestyle has been of course a playboy lifestyle, rapping... such like Pitbull's. They say I have a nice low manly voice but I would need to practise a lot, and I'm really scared of doing it where the people are (weak confidence). Other people of course bring me down saying I will never get to live like him. I live in a small hopeless town and there's nothing much to do.
I've got enough of jerking off and porn, I'm debating as if I should pay a girl and have some fun, take her on coffee and let her introduce me and boost my self-confidence up? But I don't really have money though. I need to get a vacation job.
I'm also really tired of my appearance and my behaviour that's why I decided to finally change it all. I just came back first time from the gym. I can barely lift anything there, but I hope I will get strong and muscular xD. And when I came out I just missed another chance - there were sitting two pretty girls near and I didn't talk to them.
I noticed it's way easier for me in big cities where no one knows me.
Also I need to become more grown up with my behaviour (gestures, sitting position, etc. especially around women) and cut off all the bullshit.
Okay, I'm done by now, because it had to be a long story short, and it's getting kinda long. have a nice day!

Hey there. Just thought I'd say hello and say a few words.

First off, know that all that stuff you want is possible. But also, that Rome was not built in a day. Sometimes the toughest things we do are bringing ourselves to move just one step closer to our goals each day.

Secondly, that's cool that you have your sights set on a goal, in your case rapping. But to get by in rapping it seems, you need some confidence. A lot of it! You need to develop thick skin, so you can shrug off the haters (even the most popular and successful have haters). You also need to believe in yourself and your art. You need to believe you have something worthwhile to show the world. Study the ones you like and practice, the flows and rhyme schemes and such.

You mentioned you wanted to be like Pitbull. To be honest, I don't listen to much rap and am not quite sure what he is like, but I imagine if he is mainstream he is all about, you know, money, women, partying, cars, etc. The world is already full of rappers like that, everyone is doing it. So I'm thinking, what about for you, you rap about more philosophical things? You'd stand out more, you'd have more chance of getting noticed. The philosophical rappers have smaller followings, but they are respected for choosing unusual topics, and showing their intelligence and deep vocabulary. Don't rap about the street life or the party life if that is not the life you know. But you have thoughts, and as an artist you'll always have to be on the hunt for inspiration. Feed your brain good info and you should have some good topics to rap about.

For more understanding of rap, I'd check this site out:
http://rapgenius.com/

It shows the lyrics of songs and sometimes explains their meanings, so you can see how a song goes together.

It's good that you are done with jerking off and porn. Don't go back to that crap. It drains you, both mentally and physically. It's only going to make it harder for you to think of ideas to rap about and to make strength gains in the gym. And I would not pay a girl for a relationship or sex, it would be phoney and you wouldn't really learn how it's done and would also put your health at risk. It's just not worth it.

And it's also good that you're going to the gym. But without direction, you won't know what to do or how to measure your progress. You should make a plan and track your results. That way you can see if you are getting strength.

When I was asking for advice on this, I was told that I needed to build up some initial strength before I would really benefit from using the weight machines. So I started doing pushups Monday-Wednesday-Friday, and situps Tuesday-Thursday-Saturday, with Sunday as a general recovery day. I'm aiming to be able to do 100 pushups in a row, and 200 situps in a row. I'm not there yet but I've been tracking my progress and I know I am getting there. I use these sites:

http://hundredpushups.com/
http://www.twohundredsitups.com/

Don't forget, good form is the most important thing. Better to only be able to do a small amount of reps with good form, than a lot with bad form.

Last but not least, I hope you are not shooting yourself in the foot by drinking to excess or any kind of smoking, if you are trying to get healthy. You don't want to un-do all your hard work.

I hope you can make some progress then. I'm working on myself as well. It's taking time and I wish I'd started at your age. Good luck to you!

 

[ASocial]

They say I have a nice low manly voice but I would need to practice a lot, and I'm really scared of doing it where the people are (weak confidence). Other people of course bring me down saying I will never get to live like him.

Practice daily, but not rap... singing. Church Choir, Theatre(I knew a guy who got women like crazy, he was into theatre), violin (improves posture), etc...

I live in a small hopeless town and there's nothing much to do.

What a coincidence, so do I. There's still a theatre here.

...and boost my self-confidence up? But I don't really have money though. I need to get a vacation job.

That will not boost your self confidence. Practice. You can learn to sing in one year if you do it everywhere. If you're trapped in a small town... you're 19, you can go somewhere else and be someone else.

And when I came out I just missed another chance - there were sitting two pretty girls near and I didn't talk to them.
I noticed it's way easier for me in big cities where no one knows me.
Also I need to become more grown up with my behaviour (gestures, sitting position, etc. especially around women) and cut off all the bullshit.
Okay, I'm done by now, because it had to be a long story short, and it's getting kinda long. have a nice day!

You probably didn't miss your chance. Women use subtle body language to indicate to a man that he is welcome. If your body language was bad, you probably weren't invited over and it might have just become awkward. (Still worth trying, though). Still, you need to improve vocally, so talk with a lot of people. The right deep voice can MELT women. Rap... not really unless you're famous. How many people are famous and how many want to be? Now, how many have that deep voice? (Surprisingly, not that many... but you do. Go for it.) You will have many more chances. 18 sucked for me, then it got better... then I screwed it up... but not approaching more people is one of the things i regret. TRY!

 

[lonelyfairy]

Welcome to the site!

 

[WallflowerGirl83]

Hello & Welcome to the Forum! =)