Locke
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A lot of people have smaller obsessions, like making sure their doors are locked, or their shoes are tied, little things like that. But have you ever run across someone who gets obsessed with other people?
I have had this problem before, because I'm friendly and tend to be affectionate to those I like. I've always been that way; when I like someone, I tell them that I like them.
There was this new girl at work a few months ago, and we hit it off right away. She seemed friendly and cool for the most part, and I was nice to her. After awhile though, it became clear that she wanted more than a friendship. I told her that I wasn't interested, but that didn't do much good. She started to get really obsessive: She would keep tabs on me, get jealous when I talked to other people, and become depressed when we weren't talking. She wasn't in love with me, we barely knew each other. She was very insecure about herself, and I think she would have latched on to anyone who showed her any kind of affection. From what I heard at the office, she has done the same with others. She likes guys who deep down she knows aren't right for her, usually younger men. It's like she's just insecure and wants someone to make her feel young and capable of being loved.
I think sometimes people start to feel so alone that they feel they're not worthy of attention from others, and once they get that attention, they take it too far or get a little lost in it. I'm not obsessive, but I can be clingy at times, so I can see how it might happen.
Has anyone else come across people like this, and how did you handle it?
I have had this problem before, because I'm friendly and tend to be affectionate to those I like. I've always been that way; when I like someone, I tell them that I like them.
There was this new girl at work a few months ago, and we hit it off right away. She seemed friendly and cool for the most part, and I was nice to her. After awhile though, it became clear that she wanted more than a friendship. I told her that I wasn't interested, but that didn't do much good. She started to get really obsessive: She would keep tabs on me, get jealous when I talked to other people, and become depressed when we weren't talking. She wasn't in love with me, we barely knew each other. She was very insecure about herself, and I think she would have latched on to anyone who showed her any kind of affection. From what I heard at the office, she has done the same with others. She likes guys who deep down she knows aren't right for her, usually younger men. It's like she's just insecure and wants someone to make her feel young and capable of being loved.
I think sometimes people start to feel so alone that they feel they're not worthy of attention from others, and once they get that attention, they take it too far or get a little lost in it. I'm not obsessive, but I can be clingy at times, so I can see how it might happen.
Has anyone else come across people like this, and how did you handle it?