FiftyFiveFeet
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So I am madly in love with someone, but in a completely non-sexual, non-romantic way, and it makes no sense to me.
I'm talking butterflies in your stomach, can't put together simple sentences, can't-get-them-out-of-my-mind in love. Despite these feelings, and the fact that I find this person physically attractive (and she is of the gender I'm typically attracted to), I have zero sexual feelings toward her. I'm in a loveless marriage, in case that matters. The most intimate physical desire I have is to cuddle up with her under a warm blanket on a cold night (clothes on).
This is totally new for me, feelings of lust have always preceded feelings of love for me, regardless of how the relationship started. In this instance, I skipped lust completely.
It's worth mentioning, this is the only supportive person in my life right now. I don't speak to my family, I don't have any other people I would call friends, and, as mentioned, loveless marriage.
Has anyone else experienced this before??? Am I having an emotional affair???
Just to fill in some obvious questions: Yes, she knows how I feel. No, it doesn't freak her out. The feeling is sort of reciprocal (obviously it's a complicated situation).
I'm talking butterflies in your stomach, can't put together simple sentences, can't-get-them-out-of-my-mind in love. Despite these feelings, and the fact that I find this person physically attractive (and she is of the gender I'm typically attracted to), I have zero sexual feelings toward her. I'm in a loveless marriage, in case that matters. The most intimate physical desire I have is to cuddle up with her under a warm blanket on a cold night (clothes on).
This is totally new for me, feelings of lust have always preceded feelings of love for me, regardless of how the relationship started. In this instance, I skipped lust completely.
It's worth mentioning, this is the only supportive person in my life right now. I don't speak to my family, I don't have any other people I would call friends, and, as mentioned, loveless marriage.
Has anyone else experienced this before??? Am I having an emotional affair???
Just to fill in some obvious questions: Yes, she knows how I feel. No, it doesn't freak her out. The feeling is sort of reciprocal (obviously it's a complicated situation).
