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4sak3n
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Would you settle for second best? Before you answer that its probably a good idea to define what I mean by second best.
I am, of course, refering to what a large number of us here seem to crave, some sort of a relationship. So, if you had an oppurtunity to get into a relationship (whether it be romantic or otherwise, perhaps a close friendship) but had no real reason to do so apart from a yearning to be in one ... would you?
I find myself having to decide whether or not to attempt to advance what is currently a pleasant minor friendship into a more romantic relationship. To be clearer, I am trying to decide whether or not to ask out a girl who I have managed not to chase away with my brooding introspection. The catch is ... I'm not really doing it because I am enormously attracted to her ... just because I yearn to be in a relationship. I guess I'm wanting to find out if the grass really is greener on the other side.
Now I'm told that relationships are about compromise, that you have to put up with all sorts of little faults in your partner that might annoy you. But how far would you be willing to take this? For instance, if you had a deep connection with someone else who totally "got you", would you wish to pursue a deeper realationship with them if they were physically unnatractive? Would you settle for 2/3 (good personality, good friendship, bad body) or second best?
This sounds awfully shallow and immature but lets be real, a physical part of a relationship is important and not finding your partner attractive could hamper that. Conversely, having a stunner with the intellect of a sand-crawler wouldn't do much either
Anyway, I know it largely comes down to what each individual is willing to put up with, but do you think I should swallow my pride and attempt to pursue a relationship with someone who I don't find 100% irresistable?
On one hand I will get a taste of what it means to be in a relationship. I will grow emotionally and find out if this sort of thing is really for me. On the other it means swallowing my pride and accepting someone who isn't my first choice. I'm just worried that this small negative will influence any sort of contact I do have with this girl (whether it be in a romantic relationship or not) and affect my reactions, possibly hurting her.
*sigh* Not going to go back and edit all of that. If I do I'll read how shallow and stupid it sounds and delete it all.
I am, of course, refering to what a large number of us here seem to crave, some sort of a relationship. So, if you had an oppurtunity to get into a relationship (whether it be romantic or otherwise, perhaps a close friendship) but had no real reason to do so apart from a yearning to be in one ... would you?
I find myself having to decide whether or not to attempt to advance what is currently a pleasant minor friendship into a more romantic relationship. To be clearer, I am trying to decide whether or not to ask out a girl who I have managed not to chase away with my brooding introspection. The catch is ... I'm not really doing it because I am enormously attracted to her ... just because I yearn to be in a relationship. I guess I'm wanting to find out if the grass really is greener on the other side.
Now I'm told that relationships are about compromise, that you have to put up with all sorts of little faults in your partner that might annoy you. But how far would you be willing to take this? For instance, if you had a deep connection with someone else who totally "got you", would you wish to pursue a deeper realationship with them if they were physically unnatractive? Would you settle for 2/3 (good personality, good friendship, bad body) or second best?
This sounds awfully shallow and immature but lets be real, a physical part of a relationship is important and not finding your partner attractive could hamper that. Conversely, having a stunner with the intellect of a sand-crawler wouldn't do much either
Anyway, I know it largely comes down to what each individual is willing to put up with, but do you think I should swallow my pride and attempt to pursue a relationship with someone who I don't find 100% irresistable?
On one hand I will get a taste of what it means to be in a relationship. I will grow emotionally and find out if this sort of thing is really for me. On the other it means swallowing my pride and accepting someone who isn't my first choice. I'm just worried that this small negative will influence any sort of contact I do have with this girl (whether it be in a romantic relationship or not) and affect my reactions, possibly hurting her.
*sigh* Not going to go back and edit all of that. If I do I'll read how shallow and stupid it sounds and delete it all.