el Jay
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I've touched on it in my other topics, but I just encountered it again.
When it comes to asking out women I know are single, I always run into a roadblock. I can never convince myself to give it a try, because I always feel this sense that if they're actually single, it's because they're completely comfortable with their life how it is, and have no desire to go into a relationship. So BECAUSE they're single, they won't want a relationship with me, and I'd be burdening them by even asking.
Now, I know this is ludicrous, but I can't help but think it. I recently found out a girl I know in one of my classes is (apparently) single, and I'm not even that interested in her, but this thought still forces itself into my head and causes me stress and depression over someone I don't even care to ask out. (although one could argue beggars can't be choosers)
Combined with the fear of rejection, this makes it practically impossible for me to ask anyone out. And not because of rejection itself, but because of the potential for awkwardness resulting from a rejection. And awkwardness triggers my social anxiety something horrible, making it a massive DO NOT WANT.
When it comes to asking out women I know are single, I always run into a roadblock. I can never convince myself to give it a try, because I always feel this sense that if they're actually single, it's because they're completely comfortable with their life how it is, and have no desire to go into a relationship. So BECAUSE they're single, they won't want a relationship with me, and I'd be burdening them by even asking.
Now, I know this is ludicrous, but I can't help but think it. I recently found out a girl I know in one of my classes is (apparently) single, and I'm not even that interested in her, but this thought still forces itself into my head and causes me stress and depression over someone I don't even care to ask out. (although one could argue beggars can't be choosers)
Combined with the fear of rejection, this makes it practically impossible for me to ask anyone out. And not because of rejection itself, but because of the potential for awkwardness resulting from a rejection. And awkwardness triggers my social anxiety something horrible, making it a massive DO NOT WANT.