It's been forever since I've visited this site, and even longer since I've posted. I just got a text from one of the few people I stay in limited contact with, sharing a link of baby photos. One of my former friends just had their baby pictures taken 2 days ago. I was a groomsmen at his wedding. But our friendship ended about 1 1/2 years ago.
I didn't even know they were expecting. Just seeing those baby pics has caused a wave of sad feelings. Reminders of lost friendships. Feeling like I'm falling even more behind the race of life.
I asked the person who sent the pictures not to send me stuff like that anymore. That I didn't need to be reminded of the regret of losing friendships. She said if I regret it I should change it. Trivializing the fact that I did try several times right after the friendship ended with no response. I told her that people need to face reality. Realize that when you try, try again, and see no results, you need to face reality. Relationships are like plants. Once they're dead, there's nothing that can be done.
How do you guys usually handle those regretful memories coming back and not getting lost in them. I've been "okay" for a long while now, which is kind of why I stopped visiting this site. But seeing those pictures, and facing that reality, is just a lot to handle.
I didn't even know they were expecting. Just seeing those baby pics has caused a wave of sad feelings. Reminders of lost friendships. Feeling like I'm falling even more behind the race of life.
I asked the person who sent the pictures not to send me stuff like that anymore. That I didn't need to be reminded of the regret of losing friendships. She said if I regret it I should change it. Trivializing the fact that I did try several times right after the friendship ended with no response. I told her that people need to face reality. Realize that when you try, try again, and see no results, you need to face reality. Relationships are like plants. Once they're dead, there's nothing that can be done.
How do you guys usually handle those regretful memories coming back and not getting lost in them. I've been "okay" for a long while now, which is kind of why I stopped visiting this site. But seeing those pictures, and facing that reality, is just a lot to handle.