Should I tell him if I’m pregnant?

[CenotaphGirl]

It wouldnt be me if I didnt over share on ALL… so buckle up and listen to my mess of a life…

Sooo, my ex and I broke up, I spent a while in hospital after I dumped him, as I usually feel suicidal around that time and go a little crazy… (we break up and make up all the bloody time)

While in hospital, my ex came to the review and slept with me, he took it as we are back together but I was just simply bored in hospital… he was not happy after I told him that and declared he’d never touch me again blah blah…

So anyway I haven't tested, but I just have this strange feeling I might be pregnant, my body feels different…I kinda wanna lie and say I slept with other men at the hospital but im scared to lie… im scared to really break up 100% if we’ve made a life… or is this another excuse not to move on… should I even mention it? I just dont know… my aching head…

 

[user 139760]

Start by taking a test. If it's negative, no need to bunch up your knickers. You're putting the bull in front of the horns.

Might I also suggest being a little less... distanced in your decision process. You've kind of created your own predicament, you know.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Start by taking a test. If it's negative, no need to bunch up your knickers. You're putting the bull in front of the horns.

Might I also suggest being a little less... distanced in your decision process. You've kind of created your own predicament, you know.

Ugh how can I test if I dont even know what i’ll dooo, its overwhelming.

 

[TheRealCallie]

Ugh how can I test if I dont even know what i’ll dooo, its overwhelming.

Perhaps because you can't do anything until you know.

 

[TheRealCallie]

How long ago did this happen and how late are you?

 

[user 188522]

Please get a test; that is your first hurdle. It is better to know than not know. People in this forum have your back; you are not alone.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

How long ago did this happen and how late are you?

Ugh over a month late at this point and im dying to be a mother but idk I feel like im doing it all wrong… im almost 100% sure im pregnant not sure why i dont wanna just pee on a stick

Please get a test; that is your first hurdle. It is better to know than not know. People in this forum have your back; you are not alone.

Honestly thanks, ppl on here assume I have a lot of support IRL but i dont and deffo need some, this is really hard

 

[user 188522]

If my memory is correct, You did want a baby. Nobody is ever ready for the changes a child has in your life. Can you go to a doctor and get a blood test? Everyone is different, but my tell-tale sign of pregnancy was tender breasts.

 

[user 188522]

"dying to be a mother, but did I feel like I'm doing it all wrong."

Cenotaph Girl, take a deep breath. I raised two successful children while suffering from BPD. There is no guidebook, and every child is different. You are kind. You care about others, and you are passionate about giving uplifting advice. I think you have qualities that would make you a great mother. Instincts do kick in! Your love for your child will be the most profound love you will ever experience. Remember to breathe; you will be OK. I know there is a lioness in you waiting to come out.
So Sincerely, Lady Grey

 

[TheRealCallie]

Ugh over a month late at this point and im dying to be a mother but idk I feel like im doing it all wrong… im almost 100% sure im pregnant not sure why i dont wanna just pee on a stick

Lots of things can cause interruptions in your cycle, including some meds and stress. So you NEED to take a test. But those can be wrong, so a blood test would likely be better.
As for doing it wrong....The only way you are going to do it wrong is if you use that baby as a pawn, if you are pregnant.

You can't know or do anything until you have facts, not just feelings, so step one, get a pregnancy test.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Im bloody pregnant… im overwhelmed… i mean… it says pregnant 2-3… like i got the digital oneeeee omg my life is so sad im telling ppl i dont know on the internet first but there ya have it … im pregnant and now im gonna have to tell my mum … ugh

 

[user 135671]

Congrats Princess

when my daughter was born, something in me changed. Love is exponential. It is not a finite resource. I loved my baby more than I had ever loved anything, and because of that, my capacity to love expanded. I loved myself more, after a lifetime of struggling with self worth. I loved my baby's mum more, so much more, as though what I thought was so special and encompassing before had just been a silly fancy.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Congrats Princess

when my daughter was born, something in me changed. Love is exponential. It is not a finite resource. I loved my baby more than I had ever loved anything, and because of that, my capacity to love expanded. I loved myself more, after a lifetime of struggling with self worth. I loved my baby's mum more, so much more, as though what I thought was so special and encompassing before had just been a silly fancy.

Honestlyyyy I dont even know what this all means, I am just praying its a boy and I am planning my tummy tuck in Spain and im not even bloody showing yet lol

 

[user 188522]

Your mother might be shocked at; first; however, she will come around. A healthy baby and a healthy mother are all that matter! Congratulations. Please keep posting; this is good news.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Your mother might be shocked at; first; however, she will come around. A healthy baby and a healthy mother are all that matter! Congratulations. Please keep posting; this is good news.

Ugh I have to figure out how to tell her, she'll be furious lol I am supposed to be married first no exceptions, you know? But anywayyy thanks sooo much, I will keep all who care posted on my journey to mother hood!

 

[4No1]

My congratulations ) It's a great news!

I am just praying its a boy

I wanted a boy and was very upset to know it was a girl. But then I found out it doesn't really matter )) You'll manage all this whether it's a boy or a girl.
Also I was quite shocked though my pregnancy was planned and awaited, so I can imagine how shocked are you.

 

[TheRealCallie]

Boys are ********. Lol. Trust me, I have two.

 

[user 135671]

Boys are ********. Lol. Trust me, I have two.

Two ********! Blimey no wonder you're full of ****

 

[CenotaphGirl]

My congratulations ) It's a great news!


I wanted a boy and was very upset to know it was a girl. But then I found out it doesn't really matter )) You'll manage all this whether it's a boy or a girl.
Also I was quite shocked though my pregnancy was planned and awaited, so I can imagine how shocked are you.

I feel like I already have a girl so im hoping for a boy sooo badly but i’ll be happy regardless lool

Boys are ********. Lol. Trust me, I have two.

Omg now im like … what of its twins!?!?! pretty sure its not though lmaoo

 

[TheRealCallie]

Two ********! Blimey no wonder you're full of ****

Nope, I'm quite regular, thank you