Ok guys, lets step it up a little.
Meetup for me... no good. I have been to two. First, real estate investors group. Most people came with a friend and if they didn't... they were actually there for real estate advice and had no interest in talking to me. Second one, craft group. All women, all 50+. Useless waste of time.
One problem with meetup is that you don't have to go. People are flaky as hell now and they come one week, they don't the next.
Personally I don't find the striking up the conversation working. It is sometimes inappropriate... and I think most of the time it is... and if it isn't... just striking up convo can just go right to weather and never to any relationship. Pleasantry for life.
Talking at the gym or on public transport -- I am telling men right now... don't do it. Imho it just is never right. And it isn't just men to women. There was a male conductor on my train I really thought was great and I really wanted to compliment but I just couldn't think of a way to do that without coming off "weird" so I never did.
So, I have been thinking and I think it is important for us to start in limiting the people we look for. We can't just make friends with anyone... that gets you right back to nothing. Make friends with a grandma... well she is nice but can't really go dancing with her. Make friends with a parent, nice but she probably will be busy with her kids...
So seems like we need to find
- people who are like us..
- in a situation were we can't just up and leave at the slighest thing..
- for a long enough term that we can get to know them
Is there like a boarding school for lonely people?