Starting to lose focus on the double life

[IgnoredOne]

And being a soldier, Limlim would know absolutely nothing about physical exposure.

<3

 

[Limlim]

I am not really into the whole anime, otaku, RPG, video-gaming thing. It sounds your problem is you think shared consumption with people even online can make them your friends. But apparently not. If you look at the current low threshold of modern people, they think consuming the same bands, the same video games is something that they have in common. But it is not, this is just a fallacy caused by the shallowness of our culture and society. Having is not being. Who you are is not what you consume.

Have you thought of getting into something like mountain biking, hiking, or anything else will actually get you outside and possibly interacting with people in real life? I think people have a need to explore new environments, but video games are a very poor substitute to satisfy this need to explore. People have a fundamental need for some type of physical exertion, too much sitting infront of a pc does not meet this need.

There might be some sort of confusion based on my original post. I tried to purvey that I do indeed do these "normal people" things, poker, pool, camping, hiking, outdoors stuff, paintball (quite a bit I might add). And that I find them to be incredibly boring, but I continue to do them for the sake of wanting to appear to be normal to those I am forced to associate with. So the physical interaction with people in my life does exist to a great degree.

Additionally these online friends are physical friends as well, as we do meet up when time and funds allow us to do so. It would be more accurate to call them long distance friends than anything else. I definitely feel that enjoying each others company is based more than on what we "consume" as you put it, as our personalities get along great and we would likely be there if the honeysuckle really did hit the fan and one of them (or myself) were in trouble. Hell I was the best man at one of their weddings.

Believe it or not but these hobbies of mine thrive quite well with the inclusion of other physical people in the same room, and I would welcome more bodies around to do so.

 

[Doubt The Rabbit]

Our little limmielim is coming out of the closet (cry) They grow up so fast!

 

[septicemia]

There is NOTHING shameful or wrong with your hobbies, I am really saddned that you feel like you need to hide what you do in your off time for fun. I mean its not like you are out giving BJs for crack or something actually to be embarrassed about. When your friends say something about one of your hobbies, TELL them that you are really into it, and explain why. I am sure you would be surprised at their lack of judgemental responses, and if they do tease you for it, they are pretty shitty friends to begin with.

The man that I am crushing on is sexy by every social standard (tall, dark, muscular, successful businessman) and he plays D&D, so dont go thinking that only a certain type of people play the role playing games.

I think you should embrace who you are and the things you find fun.

I too lived a double life for a long, long time, while I was having a sexual relationship with my stepbrother, and then again a few years later while I was being an escort. I found it literally nauseating. I guess you could say I STILL am livign a double life, because there are times that come up where I still have to lie about my life during those times. I STILL get sick from it. If my secrets were somethign I could come clean about without causing a ton of trauma and drama in my family, I would, but its not, so I cant.

 

[IgnoredOne]

There is NOTHING shameful or wrong with your hobbies, I am really saddned that you feel like you need to hide what you do in your off time for fun. I mean its not like you are out giving BJs for crack or something actually to be embarrassed about. When your friends say something about one of your hobbies, TELL them that you are really into it, and explain why. I am sure you would be surprised at their lack of judgemental responses, and if they do tease you for it, they are pretty shitty friends to begin with.

What he does is not wrong at all, but these /are/ redneck military types; I knew a few and while not bad people, they spend an overabudance of time on thinking that 1)why the world is full of faggish sheep and 2)why (insert-race-here) is full of fail. At the same time, though, most of them would probably help you if you ever got lost and feed you if you needed a meal and didn't have money; they're good people, just...biased and sometimes very ignorant, in my experience. Definitely very insular. I knew one guy who shot his own dog rather than give him away, because in his mind, he didn't trust anyone else outside of his immediate circle with his dog and that's the right thing for a man to do when he has to take responsibility.

I doubt telling them that you might be one of those **** liberals is the way to go, I grin.

Yay for life in the boonies

 

[lone_drow]

Lim, I think you're one cool dude, double life or not.

I was at a best buy when visiting my sister and I noticed a greasy, pimply faced, overweight teenager in sweat pants and a stained T-shirt playing the opening to an anime called "Angel Beats" on a demo keyboard they had set up in the corner. While looking at a sound system beside it, I casually mention "I liked that anime, but was never able to figure out how to play the tune". He looked me up and down, saw me standing there with my average figure, clean haircut, and workplace casual clothing and just gave me a look of utter shock as he responded with. "But... you look normal, how do you know about this song?"

^I can totally relate to this...it's quite hilarious to see the reaction of some people when I tell them I'm into RPG games and D&D(They are like "My goodness, you're such a geek!"). I've never played the pen and paper version though. Would absolutely love to if I could find some buddies.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Stop dancing around the honeysuckle...
You know as will as I do vedio games consume a lot of your time and energy.
It can become and is an addiction for a lot of people. As a grown man you already know this.

Just like eveything else. Such as drinking, gambling...it's not a fucken crime.
But it's still not too fucken healthy to live like that.

Obvioiusly it's effecting your relationships with poeple.

I used to make honeysuckle load of money, go to work on time, a good worker and all that good honeysuckle too.
It's didnt examp me from having addiction problems.
Chasing women, bar hoping....blah, blah, blah.
I wasnt a fucken hype or whinNo.
I lived a double life too....
On the surface everybody thought I had my honeysuckle together just becuase i have a career and pay all my bills.
It was realitively easy to pay the mother fucken bills when Im make honeysuckle loads of money.

The fucken military pays for all your fucken living expences.
And id you live on base...you dont have those fucken responsibilities of paying for those bills.

The term people use in recovery for people that's still in a functioning stage while in thier addictions
is TERM a functioning alcoholic/addict.
Addictions is all inclusive. The using itself are just the symtoms.

You having a living problem somewhere. You lack balance in your life somewhere.
Your not happy with your life somewhere.
So you're simply just using vedio gaming as an escape or to cope.
It's typical of most if not all people that have addiction problems of some sort.

Dude,,
when i was getting messed up outta my fucken mind...everything was a fucken blurr. The world became a different place.
I took on a different role and live a wild crazy life style. Living out my crazy fantacies. fresia the Joystick.
The joy stick i had was the one in my pants that wild crazy women loves to play with.
Obviously there's a sub culture for the party hardy people too....obviously, I hung out with those cats.

 

[gelnn]

@Limlim,

I am starting to like you... with alll your fantasies and hobbies around.... I think I am like you...! MW3 pls!

 

[Grumblebear]

double lives aren't always addictions, I worked for a railroad until I got too sick to continue, but I had secretly collected "N" scale railcars, locomotives, etc...

while serving in the U.S. Navy, I had Marvel comic books on subscription mailed to me at sea...

I'm 6'5, bearded with a ponytail, ride a Hog, and have a 15lb foofoo dog...

so we all have our elements that don't fit

 

[Chasm]

double lives aren't always addictions, I worked for a railroad until I got too sick to continue, but I had secretly collected "N" scale railcars, locomotives, etc...

while serving in the U.S. Navy, I had Marvel comic books on subscription mailed to me at sea...

I'm 6'5, bearded with a ponytail, ride a Hog, and have a 15lb foofoo dog...

so we all have our elements that don't fit

LoLoLoL

 

[Limlim]

double lives aren't always addictions, I worked for a railroad until I got too sick to continue, but I had secretly collected "N" scale railcars, locomotives, etc...

while serving in the U.S. Navy, I had Marvel comic books on subscription mailed to me at sea...

I'm 6'5, bearded with a ponytail, ride a Hog, and have a 15lb foofoo dog...

so we all have our elements that don't fit

Lol that's awesome, it actually made me feel better too.

 

[Polar]

Grumblebear is just oozing personality there.

I too know the double life experience. I'm a fairly closed book about my online activity.

My ex is a bit of an extreme case when it comes to that. She's an incredibly social person, quite attractive and charismatic. Loves going outside and socializing. But at the same time she's a huge fracking nerd. These days she's grown into a bigger gamer than I am. She's into typical no-life nerdy stuff as well. Eg: Few months ago she memorized Pi up to 150 numbers after the comma in like an hour, just because she was bored. Today she can still enumerate them without a single mistake (idk what's up with that girl's memory, it took me two years to properly memorize my own phonenumber). Anyone else would've given her to advice to "get a life". She's paranoiac about letting that other side of her show in real life. In such extremes that she describes herself as having two personae. She usually gets pissed if I dare to call her a nerd

I'm like that but less severe. Although I don't usually openly go telling what it is that I do when I'm sitting before my geekscreen. When someone asks I don't lie about it either. I know people quickly see beyond that first impression I give them and see a geek in me. Keeping up a double appearance grows tiring. I think as you grow older you start being more honest with yourself, at least that's the case with me.