UK introduction

[dan0192]

Hi there I'm Daniel and im from the UK, England.

Just signing up here mainly for people to talk to, I have a couple of good friends but lately their and my own self being quite busy I havent had a chance to really hang out with them.

The main reason however for me feeling lonely and depressed on occasion is that I have never had a girlfriend or any intimate connection at all, this tends to lead to feelings of depression.

The main problem i think is I seem to have an inability to aproach people, not just girls but anyone. Making new friends is something i find very hard to do and I'm unsure why everyone I do know says alot of good things about me as a person I just dont have the self confidence.

So yeah thats me and why I'm here to a small degree, I'm a pretty open person around people I know and on the internet ^^ so feel free to ask any questions you may have I'll answer as honestly as I can.

Oh by the way I have never signed up to or really used a forums like this before so am completly new to really talking on these things.

 

[EveWasFramed]

Hey, Dan, and welcome.

 

[Luna]

Hi there I'm Daniel and im from the UK, England.

Just signing up here mainly for people to talk to, I have a couple of good friends but lately their and my own self being quite busy I havent had a chance to really hang out with them.

The main reason however for me feeling lonely and depressed on occasion is that I have never had a girlfriend or any intimate connection at all, this tends to lead to feelings of depression.

The main problem i think is I seem to have an inability to aproach people, not just girls but anyone. Making new friends is something i find very hard to do and I'm unsure why everyone I do know says alot of good things about me as a person I just dont have the self confidence.

So yeah thats me and why I'm here to a small degree, I'm a pretty open person around people I know and on the internet ^^ so feel free to ask any questions you may have I'll answer as honestly as I can.

Oh by the way I have never signed up to or really used a forums like this before so am completly new to really talking on these things.

Welcome Dan.

I can definitely relate - I've never had a boyfriend or any intimate connection either which sucks. Internet is my boyfriend for now lol.

Are you a shy person? It can be difficult, but sometimes you just gotta throw yourself out there and see if it'll work or not. And why is it that you lack self-confidence? I believe there is a cause for everything that we feel.

Once you find out what is leading to such pains, only then can you start working on finding a solution. For myself, I've made changes to my lifestyle and am working progressively towards improving myself.

Just gotta tackle the problem one step at a time...
You've already made the first step by posting here...

 

[dan0192]

Thank you for the warm welcome ^^ and yeah I am a shy person to an extent although when im around people I know im quite loud and friendly. I'm unsure why I dont have any confidence to be honest... I don't think im particularly bad looking, I'm a touch overweight but not obease (15 1/2 stone at 5"6 inches). I'm very open and tend to share alot of things with people who i get to know and on the net, ^^ yay for anonymity.

I have also been told by friends I am easy to talk to and all sorts of other good points but when i get into a situation with meeting new people I fall short. Its all in my head i know but i just can't seem to overcome it everytime I want to go up to someone, say a girl iv noticed, i fall into a rythem of putting myself down and thinking why would she want to know me? sort of thing. So even tho I know I have all these good qualitys I can only seem to look down on myself and i dont know why.

I have made a few changes to my life like I recently went back to collage and put myself into a more social enviroment tho it hasnt quite worked out that way, also about 1-2 years ago i took up martial arts to get fit and it has sorta become a passion of mine. But it seems no matter what changes I make the confidence thing wont get better... sometimes I think its just cowardice over being turned down perhaps? but I have asked girls out before but every time was let down.. perhaps its those past experiances who knows.

 

[Minus]

Welcome Dan, I'm glad you decided to join us.

 

[Punisher]

Hey Daniel, south Wales here

 

[Steel]

Hey, and welcome.

 

[Luna]

I'm the same way too...funny how I always think I'm the only one in the world, and then I read stories like yours.

I often will think the people I'm interested in are out of my league...that type of thought process is a terrible thing. But! Gotta keep moving forward towards positive change right?

Heyyy...martial arts is an awesome way to keep active, and to meet people.
You also have bragging rights to kicking ass which is pretty awesome IMO.

Rejection always hurts...but I think everyone has gone through it one time or another. Just gotta keep bouncing back...that is what I tell myself.

 

[samba101]

Hi Dan and welcome,

Yeah martial arts is great I did kick boxing no contact years ago and enjoyed it immensely though our work outs were tough I wonder why I didn't pass out half the time. I would push myself and see starts, be short of breath but it was worth it in the end.

 

[dan0192]

Thanks and yeah we do light to full contat when we spar.

The whole out of my league thing is exactly it but yeah gota try and get out of that thinking pattern and do something.. some people have suggested tring to go out to a club or something on my own and meeting people that way but I keep thinking that alone would be even harder to do.. I dont know, I just really dont wanna be the guy whos 30, 40 or 50 years old and never experianced life i8n any way.