grundel70
Well-known member
What is it that you are looking for? What brought you to find this forum?
Life is hard. There is no doubt in that. We all suffer through many things. The common bond that we all share, however, is loneliness.
Maybe we are lonely because we are socially awkward and have trouble making friends
Maybe we are lonely because we have never found anyone to fill that speical, intimate need we all long for
Maybe we are lonely because we have found that special someone and they have rejected us, left us, or otherwise hurt us
Maybe we are lonely because no one can relate to us at all.
Maybe we are lonely because we find ourselves always standing in a large group of people, yet feeling totally isolated.
Maybe we are lonely because we have a physical problem that is a stigma for us...like a weight problem, a handicap, or a scar.
Maybe we are lonely because we have no family
Maybe we are lonely because all those that we have known have moved away and/or don't keep in touch with us anymore.
Maybe we are lonely because we have these feelings inside of us that push us away from others...like anger or sadness
Maybe we are lonely because we lost someone speical in our lives and that hole they left in our heart is unfilled.
Maybe we are lonely because of a combination of many of these things I have typed above.
Whatever it maybe, it brought you here. And it brought you here for a reason. Maybe you want a sympathetic ear. Maybe you want to meet new friends. Maybe you simply don't want to be lonely any more.
You are now here. I want you all to ask yourself what it is that you want.
Remember that by the simple fact you are here you are not alone. there are MANY others on this forum that can relate to you. There are people here who know what pain is. I hope that you utilize this resource...this network of people...to help ease that pain. There is always a solution to what is going on in your life. There is always hope, no matter how bad it may be. There is always a path, a way to a better future.
I hope that you come here not to give up! Pour out your heart. It is ok. You will not be ridiculed for doing so! But when you are done pouring it out please don't close it! Leave it open. If you choose to close it, then what you seek...be it love, friendship, compassion, etc...will be unable to find its way in. Cry your tears. Let them flow gently down your face. It may not seem like it, but they will eventually end. There is a chinese saying I heard once...
"When you are sad, then cry. Cry as much as you possibly can. When there are no more tears left, then move on with your life"
I hope you seize the opportunity to help better yourself, to grow, and to blossom into that person you so desperately want to be. I urge you to open your heart! It will never heal if you don't allow it to. Listen to those that have been where you are. Don't be afraid to reach out and talk to someone, send someone a pm.
Don't let fear hold you back.
And, most of all, don't find comfort in your pain.
It is easy to fall into that self pity trap. It traps you, and soon you will find comfort there. Don't be! It will only destroy you and leave you broken. When you find yourself only thinking of the negative stop. Reach out your hand! I can't promise anyone I can take away the pain, but dammit, I will do my best to help pull you out of muck and mire you may find yourself in.
But before you can grow, before you can heal, before the pain can stop you must take the first step. It is hard, difficult, and painful. But nothing will happen until you do.
Another famous saying...
"I can show you the door, but you must choose to walk through it"
Thank you for indulging this old man in is rant. I love you all, and I am here for anyone. I will do my best to provide any type of comfort and help I possible can.
Finally, to quote my dear friend Naleena,
"Whatever it is you are going through, it will pass"
Remember that.
So, what do you want? Only you can answer that question.
Love you guys!
Life is hard. There is no doubt in that. We all suffer through many things. The common bond that we all share, however, is loneliness.
Maybe we are lonely because we are socially awkward and have trouble making friends
Maybe we are lonely because we have never found anyone to fill that speical, intimate need we all long for
Maybe we are lonely because we have found that special someone and they have rejected us, left us, or otherwise hurt us
Maybe we are lonely because no one can relate to us at all.
Maybe we are lonely because we find ourselves always standing in a large group of people, yet feeling totally isolated.
Maybe we are lonely because we have a physical problem that is a stigma for us...like a weight problem, a handicap, or a scar.
Maybe we are lonely because we have no family
Maybe we are lonely because all those that we have known have moved away and/or don't keep in touch with us anymore.
Maybe we are lonely because we have these feelings inside of us that push us away from others...like anger or sadness
Maybe we are lonely because we lost someone speical in our lives and that hole they left in our heart is unfilled.
Maybe we are lonely because of a combination of many of these things I have typed above.
Whatever it maybe, it brought you here. And it brought you here for a reason. Maybe you want a sympathetic ear. Maybe you want to meet new friends. Maybe you simply don't want to be lonely any more.
You are now here. I want you all to ask yourself what it is that you want.
Remember that by the simple fact you are here you are not alone. there are MANY others on this forum that can relate to you. There are people here who know what pain is. I hope that you utilize this resource...this network of people...to help ease that pain. There is always a solution to what is going on in your life. There is always hope, no matter how bad it may be. There is always a path, a way to a better future.
I hope that you come here not to give up! Pour out your heart. It is ok. You will not be ridiculed for doing so! But when you are done pouring it out please don't close it! Leave it open. If you choose to close it, then what you seek...be it love, friendship, compassion, etc...will be unable to find its way in. Cry your tears. Let them flow gently down your face. It may not seem like it, but they will eventually end. There is a chinese saying I heard once...
"When you are sad, then cry. Cry as much as you possibly can. When there are no more tears left, then move on with your life"
I hope you seize the opportunity to help better yourself, to grow, and to blossom into that person you so desperately want to be. I urge you to open your heart! It will never heal if you don't allow it to. Listen to those that have been where you are. Don't be afraid to reach out and talk to someone, send someone a pm.
Don't let fear hold you back.
And, most of all, don't find comfort in your pain.
It is easy to fall into that self pity trap. It traps you, and soon you will find comfort there. Don't be! It will only destroy you and leave you broken. When you find yourself only thinking of the negative stop. Reach out your hand! I can't promise anyone I can take away the pain, but dammit, I will do my best to help pull you out of muck and mire you may find yourself in.
But before you can grow, before you can heal, before the pain can stop you must take the first step. It is hard, difficult, and painful. But nothing will happen until you do.
Another famous saying...
"I can show you the door, but you must choose to walk through it"
Thank you for indulging this old man in is rant. I love you all, and I am here for anyone. I will do my best to provide any type of comfort and help I possible can.
Finally, to quote my dear friend Naleena,
"Whatever it is you are going through, it will pass"
Remember that.
So, what do you want? Only you can answer that question.
Love you guys!