why am i lonely?

[slappopkarl]

So I'm pretty **** lonely but let me introduce myself first.
My names Karl and I'm almost 20 years old. I work as a landscape oportive (sp) with the local council.
I like to go out for a drink with friends and go to the cinemas etc.
I know its weird huh? I got friends and family around me but why am I lonely?
I do find it hard to meet new people and what not also.

 

[spectacles]

Hi Karl,
I understand how u feel, I also have friends and family, but still feel lonely. You are young, so dont put much pressure on u.
Good luck!

 

[slappopkarl]

Hi Karl,
I understand how u feel, I also have friends and family, but still feel lonely. You are young, so dont put much pressure on u.
Good luck!

Thanks specs igood advice but u know how hard it is especially when ur a young adult.

 

[Dessa]

Hey Karl. Welcome to the site. I find it hard to meet new people too and I'm 18. I try really hard, though. Anyway, best of luck.

 

[Peter Lorre]

Welcome Karl

Don't worry, we've all been there. Sometimes things just don't seem to work out that well and it feels like you can't get any decent connections with other people. But hey you're still so young, so just live by these words:

And it really doesn’t matter that we don’t eat
And it really doesn’t matter that we don’t sleep
It really doesn’t matter, it really doesn’t matter at all

'Cause we are so young, so young now
And when tomorrow comes
We’ll just do it all again



PS: Feel free to PM me if you ever feel like talking to someone!

 

[SophiaGrace]

You are lonely because you feel like you are missing something. What would make you feel not lonely?

 

[slappopkarl]

Thanks for the welcoming.
Sophia- I dunno what would make me no longer lonely. I wish I did.

 

[Poguesy]

G'day

 

[SherryGee]

hey karl

 

[ourcocoon]

So I'm pretty **** lonely but let me introduce myself first.
My names Karl and I'm almost 20 years old. I work as a landscape oportive (sp) with the local council.
I like to go out for a drink with friends and go to the cinemas etc.
I know its weird huh? I got friends and family around me but why am I lonely?
I do find it hard to meet new people and what not also.

Hi Carl, Welcome to the forum
I think being involved in the process of self discovery and growth is the key to not being lonely. A kid may play for hours with his/her toys and yet will not feel lonely. When we are fully engaged in our interactions we do not feel lonely, the problem start when we are afraid to fully immerse ourselves. This is usually the case since we are not sure about our ability to response correctly and we want to avoid mistakes. In communication instead of going with the flow of communication and listening, our mind is busy thinking what we should say next. Since we are not sure about our response we always judge others beforehand and decide how to deal with them before we face them, this makes our behavior too much judgmental. We usually suffer from weak sense of direction and attention. Since we are not able to response we avoid responsibility and hide ourselves behind others. We feel lonely because we cannot take charge of our own life and we are always dependent of others. We do not have independent action and therefore it is not in the direction of our growth. When we are not aligning with our destination and maturity process we feel lonely. So what is the source of our problem and its solution?
Our problem is called emotional immaturity. We get easily exited and our excitement can control our mood. To avoid this weakness of ours we usually try to calm the situations and that is why we are boring people!
The solution is to master our breathing capabilities. Our longs do not have muscles and can become quite out of control and emotional. We have to watch and maintain our breathing rhythm during the day and even when we sleep. I myself am doing everyday exercises like swimming and jugging. Singing and other self expressive arts are also very helpful.
I hope you found my sayings helpful. Please let me hear from U and I will be more than happy to answer your questions and stay in contact during your recovery process.
Take care

 

[Callie]

Hey Karl