Why does it hurt me that he sleeps with other women?

[Anten]

I think the main point is if a guy loves you there is no other girls that matter to him, excluding female family members. Open relationship means he wants something different, but still wants you because you love him and you will put up with his honeysuckle, where as the other girls won't.

 

[VanillaCreme]

I know this post is a half a year old, but I haven't really been around that much to thoroughly read the forum, as I left a couple of weeks before the original post was made. But, goodness, that's more than a wondering eye. I think that nearly everyone has sneaked a peak at someone, whether it was tangible or not. I know I have a slight thing for a professional wrestler I love, and it's not bad at all, especially considering there's no way I'd ever get my way to him. But when your partner is actually getting their way to people, I'd consider it a problem. Maybe I'm a bit old fashion, but there's no way anyone can ever claim to love someone and then want to sleep with others. To me, it doesn't make any sense. Being in love isn't about reaching out to others.

I haven't read the whole thread, so I don't know any updates, but best of luck to you.

 

[passage]

Can I be blunt here?
Your title of your thread should really be "Why does he want to hurt me by sleeping with other women?" This man doesn't love you! He doesn't get it and never will - stop waiting around for him to change or to see things your way because he never will. Even if he's whispered sweet nothings into your ear and said "I love you" or whatever it is that cads do these days to keep women hanging on, he still doesn't love you. Quit waiting around for him to make a decision, get in the driver's seat and kick his cheating, sorry ass out - he should be done like toast. You can do far better than that. The only thing a man like that can do for you is keep you from meeting a man who's truly compatible with you. Dump him today!

Teresa

PS - Open, shmopen. Open relationship is just another way of this guy's saying "I-don't-care-if-you-don't-like-me-sleeping-with-any-skank-I-can-find-imma-do-it-anyway-AND-flaunt-it-in-your-face".

I disagree. Open relationships are fine, if both parties are fine with it (they both have to be sexually liberal). Clearly the female in this isnt fine with it. So she shouldn't have agreed. It probably comes down to lack of self esteem on her part, to get up and leave the man when she feels the relationship is no longer right for her. Its the 21st century, women should feel strong enough to live just fine without a man, and really this woman needs to, for lack of better words, grow a set of balls and take action.