AFrozenSoul
Well-known member
Has been a while, but I stumbled upon an article. I think everyone on here could benefit from this article
Why are you Single
Why are you Single
Joseph said:Good article, and totally true.
Also what complicates things in the dating world nowadays is the fact that we are very superficial as a world and as a culture. Even those who claim to be more 'enlightened' than that, subconsciously mirror the behavior of superficiality that is so pervasive all around us.
Most people have a set list of criteria in someone they date, let's be honest. It's usually something like:
- height
- weight
- hair color
- voice
- clothes
- outgoing
- sexual
- etc
If more people had a list like this, they would have more successful relationships:
- honest
- loyal
- loving
- committed
- moral / ethical
- thoughtful
- trustworthy
- compassionate
PaperDuck87 said:I read your post too fast. We're both saying the same thing. My apologies.
Enchanted Girl said:I agree with the article. And some of you guys aren't getting it, I think. You're saying society is superficial, so basically no one is looking for someone like you. The article warns against that type of thinking for GOOD REASON. Look at all the ugly married people in the world. Someone desires them. Someone wants someone just like you as well.
I think that kind of negative thinking makes it so that you don't put yourself out there and meet new people. People can also sense that kind of negative thinking in you if you have it and start thinking of you that way too.
I'm so ugly to be honest and unattractive, but somehow I get boyfriends. Trust me, it's weird to me as well. I just know that if I can, anyone can. They just need to find the right person/people. There's lots of guys out there who would not, under any circumstances, date me, but I ignore those guys and try to find the ones who will/would.
Enchanted Girl said:I agree with the article. And some of you guys aren't getting it, I think. You're saying society is superficial, so basically no one is looking for someone like you. The article warns against that type of thinking for GOOD REASON. Look at all the ugly married people in the world. Someone desires them. Someone wants someone just like you as well.
I think that kind of negative thinking makes it so that you don't put yourself out there and meet new people. People can also sense that kind of negative thinking in you if you have it and start thinking of you that way too.
I'm so ugly to be honest and unattractive, but somehow I get boyfriends. Trust me, it's weird to me as well. I just know that if I can, anyone can. They just need to find the right person/people. There's lots of guys out there who would not, under any circumstances, date me, but I ignore those guys and try to find the ones who will/would.
Joseph said:Good article, and totally true.
Also what complicates things in the dating world nowadays is the fact that we are very superficial as a world and as a culture. Even those who claim to be more 'enlightened' than that, subconsciously mirror the behavior of superficiality that is so pervasive all around us.
Most people have a set list of criteria in someone they date, let's be honest. It's usually something like:
- height
- weight
- hair color
- voice
- clothes
- outgoing
- sexual
- etc
If more people had a list like this, they would have more successful relationships:
- honest
- loyal
- loving
- committed
- moral / ethical
- thoughtful
- trustworthy
- compassionate
I.O. said:I'm single because I tend to get my hopes way, way up for something that isn't that reliable, and when it inevitably blows up in my face, I get a little more bitter and cynical. Right now I've been waiting for five hours at the school alone because a girl said she might go to a bar with me. Even if she doesn't show up, I didn't have anything better to do.
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