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I see what you mean with consumerism however, that's not exactly what I'm talking about here. I'm not so interested about the latest cell phone or getting a car or a house. It's about living in a place that's not cramped and being able to visit places (not even overseas). Actually, it's not...

I'm writing this with an uncomfortable feeling that's been nagging me in the last few weeks. Something that feels like ''been there, done that'', some apathy, some annoyance. I don't feel I can talk about it with anyone around me. When people talk I can't relate unless it's some very basic...

I've seen that story. Why did they put an overnight camera in the first place? Were they actually expecting something to happen? Somebody must be pulling a prank, like in those cases of statues weeping blood.

I used to work in a place where there were female convicts. It was impressive to see how these women could find a boyfriend so quickly upon release. Not all of them but many of them had multiple tough problems: having a sentence or many, mental problems, having no job or a lowly job, drug...

The following is an unapologetic rant, sorry if I offend by whining: I could say ''I've got no life'' but I've got one and it looks like this: it's a robot life where I work 3-4 times a week and I have an internship 3 times a week. I have an evening class and a day class as well. When I have...

:( Hope you had a good, loving experience afterward or that you will have it eventually. I bet if you put that bit of info on an online dating profile or include it in a conversation, you would get a lot of enticed women ready to ''unvirge'' you. It's a sexual fantasy for women as it is for...

I often get approached by men in public places (in public transportation, in the street or in a store). Non-caucasian people do that a lot, I find. Maybe they're more gutsy? White guys are shy. It is quite flattering. But personally, even when it's done tactfully, I'm too reserved to respond to...

Maybe that dream of yours about being a druid in the forest with animals is actually what you are called to do.

Maybe it's the scarcity mindset but, I once had true love and it's gone so I would be very impressed if I met another true love in my life. Like winning the lottery twice, I think it's not bound to happen. Might be wrong, perhaps.

@Ashariel. I feel the same: 50% wants to be with someone, 50% does like being alone. Sometimes when you've had much pain and drama, you feel better being alone. I also don't like the ''game of dating'' going around. Maybe I'll change my mind later but for now, it's ok being alone.

Yeah, that's exactly it and more.

@Lednip: I like your life story. It goes to show that changing is possible when faced with death. In fact, I experienced something similar when I saw a narcissist change as he was nearing death. As another poster says, you just have to go through a lot with a narcissist and it may not be worth...

So here I enter a dangerous territory, the one made of generalizations! This is just from some personal observation and it leads me to wonder. I've always been attracted to cerebral men who have some gift with speaking or charisma. Turns out my experience with them is not so good when it comes...

That's too bad but then, you did nothing wrong. If you're ok keeping her as a friend, you never know if something would develop. I know some people just says ''friend zone'' all the time but many romantic relationships develop from friendship.

@Neozoro! You don't need to place impressive things! You rather need to make a ''cute move''. You have to go with the ambience and what will be happening but, I'd suggest looking at her quietly but intently when she speaks, look at her mouth and then, back at her eyes. Laugh gently if she says...

I think when you experience that freedom and that space, even if you're inclined to being in a relationship, you're a lot less open to having controlling people in your life, a lot less tolerant of someone else intruding.

I agree with the above posters: it's about doing what YOU feel is important. Did you do certain things just because it seemed like the right things to do? Or to please people? Did you put so much stock in doing certain things (flexing muscles, approaching girls, doing standup, etc.) that you...

And don't forget the all-important checklist!

A therapist I was talking to about my online dating activities (among other things) asked me how much (in %) I wanted a boyfriend. ''Do you want it 50%? 80%?''. I thought and said that I wanted it about 10 to 20%. She said it was not enough to warrant going out and trying to date. And she is...

A few posts on this thread introduce the notion of finding a boyfriend/girlfriend as if you're looking for a job or a house. Just go out with your best CV and there you go! Like others said, it's not that simple. You can go out as much as you want and still not find anybody to be with in a...