Hauntyoueveryday
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I've been in the pick up community for about three years. I just got out of yesterday.
A little back story: Before pick up I just couldn't get it going with the girls. I'd had four girlfriends through middle school and high school and would date other girls here and there. I lost my virginity at age 15. But I didn't have sex again until right before my 20th birthday. At the point that I got into pick up I had gone on an successful date with this girl from class that I really wanted. She was smart, pretty, and a dancer. But when I went for the second date she was not interested. I was a bit crushed.
So I went into a Barnes and Nobles (that she actually worked at) bought the rules of the game and it was on from there. I did this thirty day challenge thing and the goal was to get a date in thirty days or less. I did that.
I experimented with wings, I would approach women seven days a week during the day. When I moved to L.A I would go out to bars and clubs constantly. I can't say that I am a player. But I've been able to have sex with women in a club on a few occasions. I have gotten a few more dates. But not as much as I liked.
Fast forward now and I look at my romantic life and I still disappointed. And confused now.
Ever since I was a kid all I wanted was a hot girlfriend. That's pretty much all I wanted. Pick up made be believe that I wanted a harem. That relationships were no good, that love didn't exist, that I had to approach women constantly, etc, etc, etc.
It also made me believe that I would be a player in two years. Nearly three and I am not. Yes there are instances where I was able to make out, and have sex. But a lot of times I left the night upset. Or I'd get a bunch of numbers that turned into flakes. Or met women who would flake on me hard core. Or just not meet the kind of women that I am really interested would be really interested in me.
There is this underlying sadness in pick up. All these guys are fake macho dudes that are just trying to cover up their black holes. Most people that are really into pick up are just not good characters that you would want to hang out with.
I've come to realize that it just isn't for me. It almost feels like I've gotten out of a cult. There was some good. It forced me to make an effort to talk to women, to develop my social skills, to go to the gym and exercise, to push myself more and it's influence other areas of my life. It made me not be outcome dependent, it made me control my emotions more.
But it also made me try to become someone that I am not. It's also diverted my attention on women way too much. Sometimes to the point where I didn't even like to go out at night or approach a woman. Or I was focusing on women rather than work. They look down on a movie star who gets women based off of their career and think it's better to just be a guy who can slay. And a lot of them are dicks. You say something and they say that you are just stuck inside the matrix. Call you a chode or something. Tell you to go and talk to women who you weren't attracted to and even have sex with the.
I do believe that mainstream society is a bit of a matrix and there is a blue pill that we can take. But I don't think that companies like RSD are the answer to this. Enlightenment is.
At the end of the day it's just about showing off and filling holes.
I truly do not know what I want. The closest thing would be to become a serial monogamist. I do like women and it's been a long time since I've been in a relationship. But I do not want to be tied down for long either.
But at the moment I really want to focus on my career too. I feel that most people who are great in life aren't spending too much time being worried about getting laid. I doubt Walt Disney was going out on a Friday night as he was developing Snow White and the seven dwarfs and was scratching his head on how to pull.
I figure at the end of the day when I realize my career goals that the women will be there. Women come and go as well. I am the only constant.
Anyone else here ever done pick up?
A little back story: Before pick up I just couldn't get it going with the girls. I'd had four girlfriends through middle school and high school and would date other girls here and there. I lost my virginity at age 15. But I didn't have sex again until right before my 20th birthday. At the point that I got into pick up I had gone on an successful date with this girl from class that I really wanted. She was smart, pretty, and a dancer. But when I went for the second date she was not interested. I was a bit crushed.
So I went into a Barnes and Nobles (that she actually worked at) bought the rules of the game and it was on from there. I did this thirty day challenge thing and the goal was to get a date in thirty days or less. I did that.
I experimented with wings, I would approach women seven days a week during the day. When I moved to L.A I would go out to bars and clubs constantly. I can't say that I am a player. But I've been able to have sex with women in a club on a few occasions. I have gotten a few more dates. But not as much as I liked.
Fast forward now and I look at my romantic life and I still disappointed. And confused now.
Ever since I was a kid all I wanted was a hot girlfriend. That's pretty much all I wanted. Pick up made be believe that I wanted a harem. That relationships were no good, that love didn't exist, that I had to approach women constantly, etc, etc, etc.
It also made me believe that I would be a player in two years. Nearly three and I am not. Yes there are instances where I was able to make out, and have sex. But a lot of times I left the night upset. Or I'd get a bunch of numbers that turned into flakes. Or met women who would flake on me hard core. Or just not meet the kind of women that I am really interested would be really interested in me.
There is this underlying sadness in pick up. All these guys are fake macho dudes that are just trying to cover up their black holes. Most people that are really into pick up are just not good characters that you would want to hang out with.
I've come to realize that it just isn't for me. It almost feels like I've gotten out of a cult. There was some good. It forced me to make an effort to talk to women, to develop my social skills, to go to the gym and exercise, to push myself more and it's influence other areas of my life. It made me not be outcome dependent, it made me control my emotions more.
But it also made me try to become someone that I am not. It's also diverted my attention on women way too much. Sometimes to the point where I didn't even like to go out at night or approach a woman. Or I was focusing on women rather than work. They look down on a movie star who gets women based off of their career and think it's better to just be a guy who can slay. And a lot of them are dicks. You say something and they say that you are just stuck inside the matrix. Call you a chode or something. Tell you to go and talk to women who you weren't attracted to and even have sex with the.
I do believe that mainstream society is a bit of a matrix and there is a blue pill that we can take. But I don't think that companies like RSD are the answer to this. Enlightenment is.
At the end of the day it's just about showing off and filling holes.
I truly do not know what I want. The closest thing would be to become a serial monogamist. I do like women and it's been a long time since I've been in a relationship. But I do not want to be tied down for long either.
But at the moment I really want to focus on my career too. I feel that most people who are great in life aren't spending too much time being worried about getting laid. I doubt Walt Disney was going out on a Friday night as he was developing Snow White and the seven dwarfs and was scratching his head on how to pull.
I figure at the end of the day when I realize my career goals that the women will be there. Women come and go as well. I am the only constant.
Anyone else here ever done pick up?